Useful Books - Narcissistic Abuse

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To help the abused targets journey into the light from the darkness that is narcissistic abuse and mobbing.
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The books listed below are some of the books the website creator has found useful and have helped with the understanding of mobbing and helped deal with it on a personal level.

  • Adult Bullying in the Age of Social Media: Identifying Group Mobbing and Social Media by Mandy Marchola
    Social Media has created a whole new platform for bullying. While a number of publications refer to children being bullied, or workplace bullying, very little addresses the little known area of Adult Bullies and Mobbing. Sound, effective strategies are offered to recover from the painful experience of being mobbed by a group. This book provides an excellent overview and understanding of how someone can be bullied, mobbed and ostracized, while the bullies remains anonymous. It also covers the devastating effects of Mobbing, which can lead to rapid declining mental and physical health, and ultimately suicide.
  • Bully In Sight is a comprehensive guide on how to predict, resist, challenge and combat bullying in the workplace. Find out why some people become bullies while others become victims, and how and why the bullies victims are picked.
  • Mobbed!: What to Do When They Really Are Out to Get You by Janice Harper
    Written by an anthropologist with expertise in organizational cultures and warfare, whose approach to workplace aggression has been cited as “paradigm shifting,” “fascinating,” “insightful,” “refreshing,” “provocative,” and “a voice of sanity,” Mobbed! A Survival Guide to Adult Bullying and Mobbing explains the primate behavior that humans engage in when interacting in groups and how to stop it, and protect yourself, at any stage.
  • Stalking the Soul: Emotional Abuse and the Erosion of Identity Emotional Abuse and the Erosion of Identity by Marie-France Hirigoyen
    This book has great therapeutic value with analysis of often undetected manipulative patterns in destructive relationships which is both compassionate and profound. Many people will find it and eye opening reading experience and maybe even a mirror of their own lives.
  • Emotional Recovery from Workplace Mobbing (And Workbook): Practical Help for Recovering Targets by Richard Schwindt
    While most books on workplace bullying and mobbing focus on the dynamics of the abuse and advocacy, this book is dedicated to emotional healing.
  • You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse: The #1 System for Recovering from Toxic Relationships
    by Melanie Tonia Evans
    Full of powerful insights, personal experience and practical easy-to-use tools, this book will help you to identify your subconscious programmes, validate the effects that Narcissistic Abuse has had on your life, and it will show you how to free yourself from inner trauma so that you can heal the pain and build a new life.
  • Make Your Bed: Small things that can change your life... and maybe the world by William H. McRaven
    A book of life lessons and ways to change the world from American hero Admiral William McRaven.
  • Mindfulness: Be mindful. Live in the moment. by Gill Hasson
    Be calm, collected and in the moment.
    Too often, life just races by. You don t fully experience what s happening now, because you're too busy thinking about what needs doing tomorrow, or distracted by what happened yesterday. And all the time your mind is chattering with commentary or judgement.
  • Overcoming Anxiety: Reassuring Ways to Break Free from Stress and Worry and Lead a Calmer Life by Gill Hasson
    Understand, overcome and break free from worry and anxiety.
    Worrying can be helpful when it prompts you to take action and solve a problem but unrelenting doubts, fears, and negative possibilities can dominate your mind, affect your ability to manage your everyday life and wellbeing, your sleep and appetite, your social life, and your ability to concentrate. But it doesn't need to be like this, there are ways that you can manage this spiral of unhelpful thoughts and difficult feelings.
  • Rediscover kindness and rediscover your worth
    Have you ever helped someone out of instinct, because not helping never even occurred to you? Remember how surprised you were at their gratitude? It is easy to feel like kindness and gratitude are becoming rare in the world today, but the truth is that it is all around you — you just need to learn how to see it. Kindness shows you how to do just that, and inspires you to take part with tips, ideas, recommendations and advice. You will learn to see yourself and your surroundings in a kinder, happier way.
Adult Bullying in the Age of Social Media: Identifying Group Mobbing and Social Media by Mandy Marchola is very good book and goes straight to the heart of adult bullying and mobbing. It covers all the techniques which are used against targets of abuse and explains why people behave as badly as they do.


It explains:

  • The smear campaign.
  • How the mob works.
  • The type of people who instigate the hate campaign.
  • How to handle the mob and mobbing.
  • Why people love to join a mob.
  • Why most people like to bully and abuse other people.
  • How to care for yourself.

Social Media has created a whole new platform for bullying. While a number of publications refer to children being bullied, or workplace bullying, very little addresses the little known area of Adult Bullies and Mobbing.  More information on Social Media can be viewed here.

Sound, effective strategies are offered to recover from the painful experience of being mobbed by a group. This book provides an excellent overview and understanding of how someone can be bullied, mobbed and ostracized, while the bullies remains anonymous. It also covers the devastating effects of Mobbing, which can lead to rapid declining mental and physical health, and ultimately suicide.

The influence of the bully over the group is highlighted by comparisons and examples of pack behavior. Knowing there are options, and that others have experienced bullying and mobbing, and have survived, can bring comfort to someone who is currently experiencing mobbing. Mobbing is abusive, destructive, aggressive and completely overlooked, while the victims languish in silence. This book includes the very personal experiences of the author who suffered with the shame and despair of a social mobbing, affecting every area of her life, right up to the point of attempting suicide.

Mobbing needs to be recognized as a criminal offense. There is a need for the public to wake up to the immense damage and very ignored aspect of mobbing as pertaining to modern society, acknowledging the victims and holding the perpetrators accountable.

Misleading and damaging information can be transmitted through Social Media and mobbing needs to be perceived as a criminal offence. There is a need to wake up to the immense damage and very ignored aspect of mobbing as pertaining to modern society.

I would recommend this book to anyone who cares about their community, children and their own integrity and personal development. If you are in a mob (toxic group or vigilantes) reading this book may wake you up to the way you are being used to attack innocent members of society and just how easy this manipulation is. Unfortunately a lot of people and not mature or honest enough with themselves to wake up to what they have done or are still doing.

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Review
Powerful, compassionate, practical (Nursing Times, 1/1/97) Review: Thank you for writing Bully in sight ... it's like a torch in the darkness -- survivor of bullying - name on file, 3/3/98

Will be eagerly read by those waiting for an update [to Andrea Adams' book] -- Times Educational Supplement, 3/7/97

Synopsis
Bully In Sight is a comprehensive guide on how to predict, resist, challenge and combat bullying in the workplace. Find out why some people become bullies while others become victims, and how and why the bullies victims are picked. '

From the Author
This is the book I so desperately needed when I was being bullied out of my job.

From the Back Cover
Discover the difference between bullying and management, explore over 80 ways of taking action against bullies, learn how and why bullies choose their victims, see why some people become bullies whilst others become victims, obtain advice on how to identify and deal with the serial bully, learn to recognise bullying's foreseeable psychiatric injury, develop awareness of bullies' tactics and learn defence strategies.
Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.

Bullying is widespread. Surveys suggest that over half the population has experienced or witnessed bullying at some time in their lives. Even this figure may be conservative.

Being bullied is an unnecessary hell. It destroys individuals, wrecks families, devastates lives and livelihoods, and costs both employers and the State dear. It does not toughen people up, instead it weakens, disempowers and destroys. It does not aid survival, instead threatens our existence. It does not promote long-term growth and prosperity, but favours short-term expediency at the expense of the long term. And, as with other forms of violation and trespass, only those who have suffered it fully appreciate the sheer awfulness of daily unremitting abuse that has no answer, no reason, no value and no end. In the last decade of the twentieth century, workplace bullying is, in my view, the second greatest social evil after child abuse, with which there are many parallels.

The book is available on Amazon at https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0952912104/.
Mobbed!: What to Do When They Really Are Out to Get You by Janice Harper


Is everybody out to get you? Are you being bullied and shunned not just by one, but by many? You may not be paranoid, you just might be being mobbed. In Mobbed! What to Do When They Really Are Out to Get You, anthropologist Janice Harper, a regular contributor to Psychology Today and The Huffington Post, explores the group psychology behind collective aggression at work, school, the military, church or community. Unlike other anti-bully books that focus on "evil" people or "psychopath bosses," Harper shows how and why even good people will engage in inhumane behaviors in group settings—and what targets of their aggression can do to protect themselves once it starts. From studies in animal behavior to showing how administrators communicate behind the scenes when they want to eliminate someone, Dr. Harper takes the reader on an exploration of the underbelly of human nature to show step-by-step what happens to the pack when a leader—whether an alpha wolf or a disgruntled boss—wants one of its own to be gone.

Written by an anthropologist with expertise in organizational cultures and warfare, whose approach to workplace aggression has been cited as “paradigm shifting,” “fascinating,” “insightful,” “refreshing,” “provocative,” and “a voice of sanity,” Mobbed! A Survival Guide to Adult Bullying and Mobbing explains the primate behavior that humans engage in when interacting in groups and how to stop it, and protect yourself, at any stage.

This book is available from Amazon at https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B01HK41KQG/


The book is available on Amazon at https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/188558699X/.

This book has great therapeutic value with analysis of often undetected manipulative patterns in destructive relationships which is both compassionate and profound. Many people will find it and eye opening reading experience and maybe even a mirror of their own lives.

The book covers emtional abuse in great detail and although the scars of this kind of abuse may not be visible they do run deep. Emotional abuse is all around us, in couples, in families, in communities and in the workplace. As the book title suggests it can be regarded as a virtual  murder of the soul which society turns a blind eye to and even condones this form of abuse.

The book contains several case studies and demonstrates the psychology of the abuser as well as the target of abuse. The book is a call to recognise and understand emtional abuse and, most importantly, to overcome it. Sophisticated yet wholly accessible, this landmark account is vital reading for health professionals and victims of abuse, as well as for the concerned public.

Emotional Recovery from Workplace Mobbing (And Workbook): Practical Help for Recovering Targets by Richard Schwindt is a book which may prove useful to anyone who has been a target of workplace mobbing with practical, sensible and realistic advice.

New for 2017: Richard Schwindt’s two most successful books combined, to provide more practical help to targets of workplace abuse intent on rebuilding their lives. Workplace mobbing exacts a terrible emotional and physical toll on targets and those who love them.

While most books on workplace bullying and mobbing focus on the dynamics of the abuse and advocacy, this book is dedicated to emotional healing.

The author has been a working therapist for more than thirty years, experienced the harrowing effects of a workplace mobbing and, most importantly, has reached thousands of people in his articles, videos, website and practice to help them heal.

Richard shows how to manage the out of control emotions; the anxiety, loss and trauma of a mobbing experience.

He offers advice about on rebuilding relationships with family and loved ones. In addition he examines the pitfalls of seeking help for this misunderstood phenomenon.

This is a must read for someone recovering from the nightmare that is workplace mobbing and for anyone watching their loved one struggle.

The book details can be viewed on Amazon at https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B01NBP6RD3/.

From the Amazon website.

" Melanie Tonia Evans knows the personal hell of narcissistic abuse up close and personal. More importantly, she has discovered a pathway out of this purgatory - and that is the Quanta Freedom Healing method which is outlined in this book '' -- Christiane Northrup, MD, Author of Dodging Energy Vampires

Narcissistic abuse refers to any abuse by a person suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The abuse may occur in any type of relationship and may be mental, physical, financial, spiritual or sexual. Narcissistic abuse is reaching epidemic proportions worldwide.

If you have experienced a toxic relationship with someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, you will know that no one understands what you are going through unless they have personally experienced it.

For five years Melanie Tonia Evans was violated by her former husband. It almost took her to the point of no return, and at her very lowest moment she had an epiphany that signified the birth of the healing technique you will discover in this book.

Full of powerful insights, personal experience and practical easy-to-use tools, this book will help you to identify your subconscious programmes, validate the effects that Narcissistic Abuse has had on your life, and it will show you how to free yourself from inner trauma so that you can heal the pain and build a new life.

The book is available on Amazon at https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1786781662/.

This revolutionary programme is designed to heal you from the inside out; its effectiveness has been proven by thousands of people worldwide.

Melanie's website can be viewed via this link - http://www.pwc2.com/Efwgz.

More about the author

Biography
Melanie’s leading edge healing methods have helped thousands of people from over 80 countries make astounding full recoveries from narcissistic abuse.

Her passion is bringing to the world the Thriver Model … which saved her life and granted her the life of her dreams, despite being given the diagnosis that she would never recover from her abuse symptoms.

Melanie’s Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program which contains her pioneer super-tool, Quanta Freedom Healing, enables people to heal from trauma in time frames and ways they had never previously accessed – even when every other healing method has failed.

Melanie’s work is revolutionizing the old Model of Survivor Recovery to one of Thriver status – whereby people become more confident, happy and successful in life, than they ever were even before being abused … or even if abuse was all they have ever known.

The Thriver Model has gained incredible attention and recognition, with psychologists, counsellors, domestic violence workers and relationship experts globally, referring abuse victims to Melanie’s Model as the solution to heal for real from narcissistic abuse.

Melanie's website can be viewed via this link - http://www.pwc2.com/Efwgz.

A highly recommended book that may just improve your outlook on life!

From the Amazon website.

" If you want to change the world, start off by making your bed. "

On May 17, 2014, Admiral William H. McRaven addressed the graduating class of the University of Texas at Austin on their Commencement day. Taking inspiration from the university's slogan, "What starts here changes the world," he shared the ten principles he learned during Navy Seal training that helped him overcome challenges not only in his training and long Naval career, but also throughout his life; and he explained how anyone can use these basic lessons to change themselves-and the world-for the better.
Admiral McRaven's original speech went viral with over 10 million views. Building on the core tenets laid out in his speech, McRaven now recounts tales from his own life and from those of people he encountered during his military service who dealt with hardship and made tough decisions with determination, compassion, honour, and courage.

Told with great humility and optimism, this timeless book provides simple and universal wisdom, practical advice, and words of encouragement that will inspire readers to achieve more, even in life's darkest moments.

About the Author
Admiral William McRaven (Ret) is the most well-known and decorated Admiral in recent American history. He served with great distinction in the Navy, first as a SEAL and then later as the commander of JSOC and as the head of the operation that took down Osama bin Laden. He is now chancellor of the University of Texas system and a public speaker in high demand in the business and education circuits.

Available on Amazon at https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0714M8P9Y/.

Be calm, collected and in the moment.

Too often, life just races by. You don t fully experience what s happening now, because you're too busy thinking about what needs doing tomorrow, or distracted by what happened yesterday. And all the time your mind is chattering with commentary or judgement.

Mindfulness allows you to experience the moment instead of just rushing through it. Being mindful opens you up to new ideas and new ways of doing things, reducing stress and increasing your enjoyment of life.

With ideas, tips and techniques to help you enjoy a more mindful approach to life, you ll learn how to:

  • Adopt more positive ways of thinking and behaving Become calmer and more confident
  • Break free from unhelpful thoughts and thinking patterns
  • Bring about positive changes in your relationships
  • Achieve a new level of self-awareness and understanding

Life is happening right now; mindfulness will help you live in the moment, so it doesn't pass you by!




Understand, overcome and break free from worry and anxiety.

Bestselling personal development author, Gill Hasson is back and this time she's here to help with something that affects everyone at some point in their life, Anxiety. Worries and anxieties are familiar to us all.

Worrying can be helpful when it prompts you to take action and solve a problem but unrelenting doubts, fears, and negative possibilities can dominate your mind, affect your ability to manage your everyday life and wellbeing, your sleep and appetite, your social life, and your ability to concentrate. But it doesn't need to be like this, there are ways that you can manage this spiral of unhelpful thoughts and difficult feelings.

Overcoming Anxiety explains how to manage anxiety and stop it from taking over; it teaches you the skills you need to lead a more peaceful, stress-free life.

Overcoming Anxiety:
  • Provides practical strategies and techniques to manage your anxiety
  • Discusses how to break free from negative cycles and move forward in a positive way
  • Contains real-life examples from anxiety sufferers
  • Explores what it takes to handle immediate anxiety events and longer term, low-level background' anxiety and worry

About the Author

Gill Hasson is the bestselling author of the Mindfulness Pocketbook, Mindfulness, How to Deal with Difficult People and Emotional Intelligence. Gill teaches adult education courses in personal development and is an Associate Tutor for the University of Sussex where she teaches career, personal development and academic study skills.

Gill is also a freelance journalist and writes articles on personal development and relationships for a variety of magazines, including Psychologies and Take A Break, and for a number of websites.

Kindness: Change Your Life and Make the World a Kinder Place by Gill Hasson


Rediscover kindness and rediscover your worth

Have you ever helped someone out of instinct, because not helping never even occurred to you? Remember how surprised you were at their gratitude? It is easy to feel like kindness and gratitude are becoming rare in the world today, but the truth is that it is all around you — you just need to learn how to see it. Kindness shows you how to do just that, and inspires you to take part with tips, ideas, recommendations and advice. You will learn to see yourself and your surroundings in a kinder, happier way.
Kindness is not people-pleasing; people-pleasing comes from a place of anxiety, while kindness is borne out of empathy. Kindness expects no reward or recognition, and is just as beneficial to the giver as the receiver. Kindness can be a grand gesture, or something as simple as a smile. It can be quiet or loud, simple or complex. This book helps you internalise the fundamental truth that kindness does not require wealth or possessions, or material giving at all — whatever you have to offer is enough, and it may just change someone’s life.

Learn how to:

  • See the silver lining and take care of yourself in difficult times.
  • Do and say kind things when you're not feeling very kindly.
  • Sustain the warm feelings that come from helping others.
  • Express kindness even when other people are rude or critical.
  • Enjoy self-care and treating yourself.

Opportunities to be kind present themselves every day, and here you’ll learn how to notice them. Your self-esteem and confidence will grow as you discover the pure joy of helping others, and you’ll feel more comfortable allowing others to help you. In a world where kindness seems to get lost in the shuffle of worry, anxiety, aggression and worse, Kindness shows you how to bring it back into the light.

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