Glossary - Narcissistic Abuse

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Please find a list of common terms often used when having to deal with psychopaths, their followers and their malicious ploys.

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Psychopaths loving dishing out all kinds of abuse but at the same time pretending to be doing some kind of favour, it coud be physical abuse or sexual abuse but all the while they will either tell the target they deserve it or they are imagining it.

The psychopath will try to keep the target in a state of anxiety as often as possible the will use everything they can to achieve this. However, if the target realises this it can become less effective and in fact can often become quite amusing when they try to worry or scare you although this may depend on your personality.

Cognitive Dissonance
In psychology, cognitive dissonance is the mental stress or discomfort experienced by an individual who holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values at the same time; performs an action that is contradictory to their beliefs, ideas, or values; or is confronted by new information that conflicts with existing beliefs, ideas or values. This condition occurs to targets of psychopaths regularly as the psychopath often affirms one thing while doing something totally different. One way to combat this is to assess the psychopath on their actions not on what they say.

A psychopath has liitle or no conscience which they believe is a massive advantage over normal human beings. It allows them to operate without the confines of integrity, honesty, right and wrong, guilt, etc which regulate decent behaviour in normal people.

One of the cornerstones of the psychopaths personality, cruelty to animals, children, people anything they feel gives them some kind of twisted power.

DARVO refers to a reaction perpetrators of wrong doing, particularly sexual offenders, may display in response to being held accountable for their behavior. DARVO stands for "Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender." The perpetrator or offender may Deny the behavior, Attack the individual doing the confronting, and Reverse the roles of Victim and Offender such that the perpetrator assumes the victim role and turns the true victim -- or the whistle blower -- into an alleged offender. This occurs, for instance, when an actually guilty perpetrator assumes the role of "falsely accused" and attacks the accuser's credibility and blames the accuser of being the perpetrator of a false accusation.

Institutional DARVO occurs when the DARVO is committed by an institution (or with institutional complicity) as when police charge rape victims with lying. Institutional DARVO is a pernicious form of institutional betrayal.

A state which targets may succumb to especially if they have no support systems or supportive people in their lives. Can affect anyone no matter how strong they are however it may help to realise you are dealing with some very sick, deviant people and it is their problem and not the targets.

This is a devout follower of the psychopath who will normally have a number of disciples on the go at any one time discarding them once the disciple has served their purpose or have become boring. A disciple is also known as a Flying Monkey.

Emotional Abuse
Psychopaths love dishing this one out, making the target walk on eggshells, trying to make the target feel guilty for living basically trying to make the target live in fear. The best way to get out of this is not to live in fear and if possible keep away from the psychopath and their followers. The technique used to keep away from abusers is called No Contact, Low Contact, or Grey Rock.

Psychopaths are full of this, they envy everyone even if they do not publicly show it; they will often brag about their property to try and instill envy in others. Psychopaths think everyone is as shallow and devious as they are.

Never succumb to fear, it solves nothing and psychopaths love to keep targets anxious and fearful. They will find out what the targets' worries and greatest fears are, often while pretending to help, once they find these out they will try and use them against the target.

Flying Monkey
Another word for a disciple.

Gang-stalking is also known as group-stalking, vigilante-stalking and predatory gang-stalking, it is probably really mobbing. The countries with the greatest number of reports are the USA, Canada, Germany and the United Kingdom.
Gang stalking is a form of community mobbing and organised stalking combined. Just like you have workplace mobbing, and online mobbing, which are both fully recognised as legitimate, this is the community form. Gang stalking is organised harassment at it's best. It the targeting of an innocent individual or individuals for revenge, jealousy, sport, or to keep them quiet, etc. It's a psychological attack that can completely destroy a persons life, while leaving little or no evidence to incriminate the perpetrators. Primary targets are single women, minorities, dissidents, whistle blowers, etc. Gang-stalking against an individual is probably better described as mobbing as gang-stalking often describes the harassment of several individuals who may not even know one another or be linked in any way.

A system used to try and make the target doubt themselves or even their own sanity, the term is taken from the film "Gas Light". It involves manipulation through persistent denial, misdirection, contradiction, and lying in order to try and destabilise and delegitimise the target. Quite often the authorities will often unwittingly or otherwise take part in this manipulation.

Used by the psychopath for spreading their agenda of hate and poison i.e. Smear Campaign. There are three victims of gossip:
  • The target.
  • The person who listens to it
  • The person spreading the gossip.

Grey Rock
Gray Rock is where you become as exciting and interesting as a grey rock. The goal is to blend into the background, and become the most boring, unreactive person you can be. The reason being is that if you quit being a source of supply for their drama and attention, they will eventually leave you alone.

Psychopath love trying to make their targets feel guilty often using manipulation, lies and setups to achieve this. If something does not seem right or you know you have nothing to feel guilty about then do not feel guilty.

This how a psychopath views the people around them, easy to manipulate, fool and exploit. A psychopath believes he or she is more intelligent and superior to everyone around them although he or she may not publicly reveal this to anyone. That is why it is a good policy to assess people on their actions and deeds rather than what they say! People say a lot of things and not all of it or any of it is necessarily true, a lot depends on their personal agenda.

This is something all targets undergo in their day to day lives often they feel they have no one to turn to as at times just about everyone can seem to have become quite odd. However, if the target keeps faith in themselves and realises a lot of it is caused by psychopathic manipulation and ploys then the effects lessen over time.

It would seem that psychopaths are full of this, it is their problem do not make it yours.

The tool of choice for the psychopath, it can be used for stalking and obtaining information on their targets, social media can be used for harassment and abuse and to turn other people against the target i.e. spread the hate. However, it also making the psychopath's motives and tactics more public and a lot more people are becoming aware of them and the evil they spread.

Psychopaths are jealous of people often just because the other people are decent, honest people with a modicum of integrity this is quite often why some people become targets for the psychopath unfortunately.

This is a devout follower of the psychopath who does anything the psychopath wants of them it gives them a feeling of importance and of being needed, how creepy is that?

Low Contact
This is a method of minimising contact with a psychopath physically and detaching emotionally.

One of the main tools of choice for the psychopath, it is something they do as a matter of course and comes naturally.

In terms of a psychopath it means a psychopath who only operates with evil intent causing harm to other people and animals in their area of operation.

This is a no frills definition of what a psychopath is, pure and simple.

This is another tool used by the psychopath, the aim is to disorientate the target and cause as much damage as possible. This is quite often difficult to spot and defend against.

This is the bullying of an individual by a group, in any context, such as a family, peer group, school, workplace, neighborhood, community, or online. When it occurs as emotional abuse in the workplace, such as "ganging up" by co-workers, subordinates or superiors, to force someone out of the workplace through rumor, innuendo, intimidation, humiliation, discrediting, and isolation, it is also referred to as malicious, nonsexual, nonracial / racial, general harassment or constructive dismissal.


A narcissist suffers from a long-term pattern of abnormal behavior characterized by exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration, and a lack of understanding of others' feelings. People affected by it often spend a lot of time thinking about achieving power or success, or about their appearance. They often take advantage of the people around them.
Basically just another psychopath who thinks they love themselves a bit more.

No Contact
The best way to combat a psychopath. Avoid contact with the psychopath or anyone connected with them, unfortunately this may involve family members or people you thought were friends. Some soul searching may be required.

Although a psychopath is not capable of pity they will use pity as a tool to try and shift blame, make others feel guilty and try and avoid consequences when they are found out. They will try all sort of pity plays such as illness, family members being seriously ill or dying, etc. They will try anything to pull on the heart strings it does not matter all the trouble and damage they have caused.

A technique were a psychopath passes all their evil traits off as belonging to their target. This is particularly worrying if they are accusing a target of being a child molester or such like; it is quite likely to mean that is what they actually are and are trying to keep the focus off themselves.

A personality disorder characterized by persistent antisocial behavior, impaired empathy and remorse, little or no conscience and bold, disinhibited, egotistical traits.

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
The holy grail of the psychopath and their followers, this is what they try and instil in their targets to try and make their life hell and easier to control. Can be used to lead up to the suicide of the target which really is the icing on the cake for the psychopath and their followers.

A psychopath does have any remorse no matter what they have done although they may pretend to have remorse if they are caught in order to mitigate consequences.

These are used to try and make the target feel guilty, to try and shame the target or make the target look bad in other peoples' eyes. If a situation feels like a setup then it probably is, there will always be witnesses who are probably followers of the psychopath and in this day and age the results can always be put on the internet. If you have been a victim of a setup all you can do is move on and try and learn from it, remember you are stiil a decent person it is just you have been manipulated by an immoral deviant.

Smear Campaign
A campaign of lies used to undermine and confuse a target and isolate the target from their family, friends and community. This can be very effective especially with the peoples' love of gossip; people are not normally too bothered by the truth only by how juicy the gossip is!

Basically just another psychopath with maybe a slight hint of conscience.

Psychopaths really love this one, they do it themselves using social media and they can also use their disciples and lieutenants to do this for them. They also manipluate other people to do this for them. By stalking their targets they can carry out all sorts of malicious acts unmolested as well as trying to make their targets lives as uncomfortable as possible because they want and need to know where their targets are at all times. It is probably surprising just how many people are quite happy to assist with this!

Street Theatre
Used to create setups or to unsettle the target. It can be quite amusing watching so called grown up people acting like children to try and disturb, shock or annoy you. Treat it as it deserves, as a peace of play acting and theatre.

This is a condition which the target can feel if they let the psychopathic abuse get to them can be reduced a bit with the right mental attitude, no contact and removing toxic characters from your life.

The icing on the cake for the psychopath, if the target commits suicide it gives the psychopath a sick ego boost! As a target this should never be an option; never kill yourself why do what the psychopath wants?

Term used to descibe someone or people who mean to harm others or you, people best avoided.
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