Self Care - Narcissistic Abuse

A source of information for the individuals targeted for abuse, harassment and mobbing in the community and workplace.
To help the abused targets journey into the light from the darkness that is narcissistic abuse and mobbing.
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Self Care

Being mobbed by any group of people be it the workplace, school playground or community is no picnic for anyone. It is difficult to prove and at times it can seem like everyone you meet is involved which makes the target hypervigilant and anxious a lot of the time. This is very unhealthy and lead to all sorts of problems including but not limited to adrenal fatique, insomnia, headaches and stomach disorders.

When being mobbed the target may become obsessed with self help books and researching all aspects of abuse and if not careful it may become as harmful as the abuse itself. The books and links provided on this website are probably enough to provide a firm foundation to work on, once you know what mobbing is about and it's tactics the target should try not to overthink it. The mob want you to become obsessed with them and their perverted game, do not play their game, just try and get on with your life while taking a bit more care with whom you trust and talk to.
Self Care

  • Avoid the mob as much as possible.
  • Try to only keep to people you know to be on hundred percent reliable and honest, this may not include family, take care!
  • Try not to think about what the mob may or may not do, you cannot do much about it anyway.
  • Journal everything that occurs with times, dates pictures and videos if possible.
  • You should realise you are not alone in being mobbed, it happens to about one in three people at some stage of their lives. Sad but true!
  • You need to learn about mobbing but do not get obsessed with it. Know what it is, what it's aims are and the techniques used.
  • The mob will always be trying to provoke you, you should practice techniques to keep yourself calm. A recommended technique is mindfulness which is a way of learning a bit of self control and can help overcome anxiety.
  • You need to keep a sense of humour and be able to laugh. Life is on a spectrum there is joy at one end and the mob is at the other end. You need to keep towards the joy end of the spectrum, leave the mob to stew in their own hate and bile.
  • The mob wants you to think and worry about the mob all the time, do not do this. The mob is made of of really troubled people and have thier own problems, do not get sucked into their drama and toxic environment. Mindfulness can help with this as part of it is controlling your own thoughts and keeping things grounded.
  • If being mobbed at work.
    At work do your job to the best of your ability, keep to yourself, be courteous with people but do not be too chatty and keep all personal information to yourself. At home time forget work and go home, only think about work when you are there.
  • Do not let yourself be provoked that is the mob's game any reaction from you will be used to make you suffer.
  • Look for another job and plan to move on but take care not to jump from one mob into another one!

Someone who is a great advocate for targets of emotional abuse is Melanie Tonia Evans who herself suffered emotional abuse for several years. She has created the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP). Melanie is a narcisissistic abuse recovery expert, healer, author and radio host.

Biography form the Amazon website.

Melanie Tonia Evans
Melanie’s leading edge healing methods have helped thousands of people from over 80 countries make astounding full recoveries from narcissistic abuse.

Her passion is bringing to the world the Thriver Model … which saved her life and granted her the life of her dreams, despite being given the diagnosis that she would never recover from her abuse symptoms.

Melanie’s Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program which contains her pioneer super-tool, Quanta Freedom Healing, enables people to heal from trauma in time frames and ways they had never previously accessed – even when every other healing method has failed.

Melanie’s work is revolutionizing the old Model of Survivor Recovery to one of Thriver status – whereby people become more confident, happy and successful in life, than they ever were even before being abused … or even if abuse was all they have ever known.

The Thriver Model has gained incredible attention and recognition, with psychologists, counsellors, domestic violence workers and relationship experts globally, referring abuse victims to Melanie’s Model as the solution to heal for real from narcissistic abuse.

Melanie has a website at

Her book You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse: The #1 System for Recovering from Toxic Relationships is available on Amazon at or at
A prayer or affirmation which some people find useful to recovery is provided below:

Short version of the Serenity Prayer

God grant me the Serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to
change the things I can;
and the Wisdom to
know the difference.

Reinhold Niebuhr, Noted German Theologian

This prayer has been credited to almost every theologian, philosopher and saint known to man. It was actually written around 1932 by Dr. Reinhold Niebuhr of the Union Theological Seminary in New York City, as the ending to a longer prayer.
Long version of the Serenity Prayer

God grant me the Serenity
To accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And the Wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time.
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as he did, this sinful world as it is,
Not as I would like it.

Trusting that he will make all things right,
If I surrender to his will.
That I may be reasonably happy in this world
And supremely happy in the next.

Reinhold Niebuhr, Noted German Theologian
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