<![CDATA[The NarcAbuse.net Blog!]]> https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/ EN Sun, 08 Oct 2023 13:02:00 +0200 Incomedia WebSite X5 Pro <![CDATA[Attempted Hit and Run]]> imblog On the 4 October 2023 on my bicycle ride home a vehicle did very close pass striking my handlebars which very nearly knocked me off my bicycle, it was only by some miracle I managed to stay upright and wasn't hurt or killed. It was quite possibly deliberate with the following reasoning given below:

  1. On Monday the 2 October 2023 two youths accosted me on the way home and said they needed an air pump to inflate a flat tyre. The tyre was not flat at all just a bit soft but they seemed more interested in my bicycle and any cameras I had on the bicycle.
  2. On Wednesday the 4 October 2023 a vehicle did very close pass from the rear hitting my handlebars nearly knocking me off my bicycle, the vehicle did not stop. The location may have been chosen as it was a long downhill so I was travelling quite fast.
  3. On Thursday evening the 5 October 2023 a vehicle came up behind me at traffic lights and when we both moved away the driver of the vehicle behind me shone a green laser at me. This could possibly be trying to establish if I had a rear facing camera.
  4. On 14 November 2018 I was hit from the rear by a vehicle while travelling to work, the vehicle actually had to swerve onto the wrong side of the road in order to hit me.
  5. A number of years ago my neighbour's ex-wife was killed in a hit and run when the motorcycle she was riding pillion on was hit by a vehicle from the rear.

This could be construed as the following, Monday to survey the bicycle for cameras then Wednesday was the attempted hit and run with Thursday's laser event being caused by the realisation that maybe the bicycle had a rear facing camera fitted.

It is quite possible that hitting people from the rear while they are riding on vulnerable vehicles such as bicycles and motorcycles is the modus operandi for psychopaths and narcissists. This enables them to try and make such a murder as an accident if they are caught and it fits in with their cowardly, fear driven existence.

N.B.
The moral to the above is to record and journal everything which seems strange, go with your gut feeling or intuition. If you ride a motorcycle or bicycle it is recommended you use a camera front and back or even a 360 camera for all round recording with decent sound recording. Also let people you trust know of your suspicions and of the various strange events so if something does happen to you it may just prompt them to take action on your suspicions and report them to someone who can investigate further. However, do not live in fear! Everything comes with consequences attached, what goes around comes around and evil has a way of self destructing in the end. Do not use evil against evil just keep true to yourself and keep your integrity and morals intact.
]]> Sun, 08 Oct 2023 11:02:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?attempted-hit-and-run https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/000000026 <![CDATA[A quick overview of mobbing]]> imblog
The information provided below is taken from How to end mobbing: A proven 10-step process by V. d. M., G. which is available on Amazon at https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B0868215WW/.

Mobbing in itself is not correlated to the personality of the target, but is a group dynamic that unfolds if unfortunate factors collide. This means: it’s NOT the target. It’s a situation and a group dynamic. It is a well known phenomenon that individuals who may behave decently when alone will often become quite insane and nasty when part of a mob were common sense and reason goes out of the window! This is why psychopaths and narcissists like to get a mob together as they get to control a large group of people to carry out their hateful agenda while appearing to not get their hands dirty or even be involved. Today's social media is an excellent tool for this and is used very effectively by toxic individuals to enable their stalking and mobbing activities.

A common enemy

A very powerful way to strengthen any group is to create a common enemy which is usually imaginary but will be someone or a grup of people easy to target. This is an everyday tactic used in politics to create followers and supporters; anything can be used for this but the obvious ones are political views, religion, foreigners, etc. This is used to make the "others" out as not being one of "us" and is very easily done; this is the us-and-them mentallity most human beings seem to enjoy and is used to create mobs, wars, terrorism and all the other insane and fanatical movements in the world. The "others" are then used as scapegoats for all the ills in the world or in the mobs lives. The greater the percieved threat from the "others" or "them" the stronger the groups' bonds become.

In a nutshell people get involved in mobbing because they want to belong to a group and to strengthen the group’s bonds. It doesn't matter how insane or nasty the groups' motives are as long as the mob members have a sense of belonging.

In theory mobbing is NOT personal. although it certainly feels VERY personal to the target(s). It is just a bunch of people trying to strengthen their group’s bonds. And it is an effective, very unfair and hurtful, method of doing so.

There are two main forms of mobbing which are:

Active mobbing:

  • Damaging personal property
  • Publicly ridiculing someone
  • Making jokes about someone
  • Calling someone names
  • Singing hurtful songs about someone
  • Violence including physical assaults
  • Hiding someone’s possessions
  • Spreading hurtful content in social media (comments, posts, etc.)
  • Killing pets
  • Etc.

Active mobbing is fairly easy to identify as it is so obvious, the other form of mobbing is passive mobbing which is much more insidious and covert.

Passive mobbing:

  • Spreading rumors
  • Ignoring someone
  • Excluding someone from activities (for instance, birthday parties, office drinks, digital chat groups)
  • Sabotaging someone in meetings, discussions, conversations (i.e. arguing against them systematically, trying to ridicule their opinions)
  • Withholding important information from someone
  • Etc.

There are different roles in the mobbing process and there can be one or several people per role.

The driver:
These people actively drive the mobbing situation forward.

The in-group members:
These people are usually close to the driver(s). Together with the driver, they form a closely-knit group, which can be of different sizes. The driver is often the “leader” of the in-group, but this is not always the case.

The initiator:
This is an interesting role! You might have thought that the driver initiated the mobbing, but in my experience, this is often not the case (although it can be). Usually, this person was at the “edge” of the in-group, but has moved closer into the group in the course of the mobbing. He or she profits the most from the mobbing situation, because they can strengthen their belonging to the in-group.

The bystanders:
These people know about the mobbing activities. They do not actively participate in the mobbing (or very seldomly), but also take no stance against it. They might even inwardly condemn the mobbing activities, but will not speak up due to fear of becoming a target themselves.

The neutrals:
These people are unaware of the mobbing process. The “victim(s)”: This is the person or group of people that is targeted by the mobbing activities.

The protector:
This role unfortunately doesn’t always exist. These are people actively trying to support the “victim” to fight the mobbing process, but often do not succeed because they are too far away (for instance, teachers, HR employees, personal coaches) and/or lack influence on the driver(s).

Mobbing can have many causes and reasons, with some examples in the following:

Forming the in-group:
A person was looking for a target to strengthen his own identity and belong to a group, and you were the “easy choice”, because
  • You were new to a group
  • You are different in terms of race, age, political views, weight, language, looks, style, disability, etc.

Personal gain:
A person or group feels threatened by you, because
  • You are more talented in a specific area (for instance, you have very good grades or performance reviews, you look more attractive, you are better at sports, etc.)
  • You want to initiate changes (for instance, introduce new ways of working)
  • You may receive a promotion ahead of someone else
  • Your boss or teacher likes you more
  • Etc.

Finding someone to blame:
A person or group experienced a stress situation and needed someone to blame, for instance
  • Fault for wrong business decision
  • Fault for lost sports event
  • Fault for unhappy customers
  • Etc.

Protecting group values:
You contradict an elemental group value, for instance
  • differing political views
  • You voice an opinion on the groups activities such as drug abuse, alcohol abuse, etc.
  • You are opposed to how the group does business

Venting due to personal issues:
The inititaor has deep personal issues and seeks outlets for his or her rage, low self-worth, depression, in order to avoid taking responsibility for their own issues.
  • Abusive parents/spouse
  • Unhappy marriage
  • Traumatic childhood
  • Unsuccessful career

Mobbing usually occurs in four stages.

Phase 1. Initiation stage
This is covert and may only be visible in retropect, the iniatiator starts the mobbing covertly and most people will not realise what is happening at this stage. The initiator lobbys the in-group and builds on their reaction to get the ball rolling.

Phase 2. Beginning
The mobbing now moves beyond the in-group and it is only now that the target starts to notice an affect. This is strengthened by the use of lies, slander, gossip and rumours.

Phase 3. Ramp-up
The mobbing becomes more frequent, direct and hurtful. More and more people join in with the mobbing.

Phase 4. Fully fledged
This  is the final stage of mobbing. There are very few bystanders and no neutrals and the number of people involved in the mobbing has increased dramatically and has spread way beyond the initial social group due to gossip, social media, etc. People start competing with each other to see how nasty they can be, effectively trying to out nasty each other!

Personal note:
A very good individual example of mobbing is the village of Blaxton, South Yorkshire, where the mobbing was initiated by a couple of neighbours either for pay or because of some slander. It has now gone through all four stages of mobbing and the local people are now best avoided; there are very few bystanders any more and most people are involved in the mobbing. It should be noted that a lot of people who used to come to the village to walk their dogs and visit the village now tend to stay away and other members of the village who knew what was going on have moved away because the village was becoming so toxic. This situation has been created by a few families and has successfully poisoned the whole village and even a few police officers have been corrupted!

The mobbing process is now totally out of control as most of the village is part of the mob or wants to be; if there is such a thing it is a fairly successful mobbing. It has managed to corrupt a whole community there a very few people with integrity or decent reputations left as their whole campaign is built on slander and lies.
]]> Sat, 11 Apr 2020 08:40:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?a-quick-overview-of-mobbing https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/000000025 <![CDATA[Kent Police officer framed ex-girlfriend and got her family arrested]]> imblog

This is yet another case were the police side with the abuser to target a lady and her family, people do not believe these things go on but unfortunately it is going on everywhere, all the time! It is only by luck this innocent family did not end up in prison because of some controlling lunatic!

The article demonstrates how easy it is for email, social media accounts and mobile phones can be easily hacked to set people up, all it needs is the malicious intent.

Side Note:
The psychopathic abuse plot on Coronation Street does not even scratch the surface, it remains to be seen if the plot escalates to the smear campaigns, stalking and mobbing which is the normal course of events.
]]> Mon, 20 Jan 2020 21:09:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?kent-police-officer-framed-ex-girlfriend-and-got-her-family-arrested https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/000000024 <![CDATA[Cheshire police chief launches campaign against 'epidemic' of bullying]]> imblog

A commission to look into the issue of bullying is being established by Cheshire’s police and crime commissioner David Keane.

The main text of the article can be viewed below.
The commissioner wants to bring together a team of community representatives to look into the issue which he describes as ‘an epidemic among all generations in our society’.

He has chosen the international Stop Cyber Bullying Day to launch the anti-bullying commission which will look into incidences of bullying both on and off line.
The commission will review existing legislation and research, guidelines around bullying, best practice in tackling the issue, and real-life case studies to establish what more can be done to protect victims.

As part of this review, the commission will open a call-for-evidence where individuals can anonymously tell their story and experiences of being bullied.
Mr Keane said: “We are seeing an increase in bullying not just in our schools but also in the work place. Research now reveals that one in six children have been bullied at school in the last 12 months while a third of adults have been subject to workplace bullying at some time in their careers.

“We’re also seeing the nature and intensity of bullying changing. Gone are the days when you could go home from school or work to a safe place away from bullies, internet technology now means bullies can operate 24 hours a day, seven days a week bringing a constant source of distress and worry for victims.”

Through the anti-bullying commission, a set of recommendations will be developed for police and other criminal justice organisations, education establishments and elected representatives to consider how they can provide more protection for victims of bullying.

“This issue is becoming epidemic among all generations in our society. There has been a number of cases where bullying has resulted in tragic events such as suicide and self-harm. This should not be happening; more needs to be done to protect both children and adults from bullying.

“All law enforcement agencies, education establishments and employers have a role to play in providing better protection for their residents, pupils or staff members. I hope that the anti-bullying commission can influence the actions of these agencies”, he added.

The commissioner is now looking for an independent chair to lead the commission and is advertising for the role on his website. He is seeking someone who is passionate about safeguarding children and adults and has the relevant leadership skills to drive forward the commission.

Personal Note:

It is my opinion it will not even scratch the surface of modern abuse which involves stalking, cyber bullying, workplace bullying, workplace mobbing, community mobbing. How can it work when a whole section of a community turns on an individual to try and murder them by proxy, make no mistake, that is what the abuse is working towards.

Bullying to most people brings up to most people images of the bullying they experienced at school, modern bullying with the aid of social media is far more vicious than that; it is a process aimed at the pushing of the selected target to suicide which in the case of bullying is murder by proxy.

The police respond to many setups and incidents by blaming the target and supporting the perpetrators; in many cases the targets of abuse have been cautioned, fined or even imprisoned when approaching the police for help. In this way the target is effectively isolated from any support system and in many cases they are pushed to self destruct which is why mobbing is a very effective tool for anyone with an axe to grind. Apparently there is no shortage of people willing to join in a mobbing campaign for all sorts of reasons especially in this modern age were empathy and understanding is regarded as a weakness.

It is easy to tell if you are a bully or abuser if you:

  • Gossip about other people, passing on information not knowing if it is true or not and not even caring.
  • You partake in kind of setups for any reason, there is no justification for any maunufactured incident.
  • You participate knowingly or unknowingly in a smear campaign, see gossiping above.
  • You track someone's movements and monitor their property.
  • You vandalise other people's property or attack their pets.
  • You take part in street theatre, pretending mock offense or deliberately over react ot any incident.
  • You are part of a mob demonising one individual in the community just because other people say they should, the reasons are most likely fabricated.
  • You feel like you have to carry out actions you know are wrong just be part of the "in crowd".

It is easy to tell if you are dealing with a bully or abuser if they:

  • Gossip about other people or pass on
    derogatory
    information about other people. Gossips will gossip about everyone including you as long as you are not around.

  • Smear other people to you and a lot of what they say seems far fetched or out of character for the person concerned. This is made worse if you do not really know the person concerned.
  • Take every opportunity to undermine someone and putting a negative slant on eanything they do or say.
  • Tell you what other people are doing and when or passing on other people's private business.
  • Vandalise property or hurt pets while saying the other person deserves it.
  • Demonise someone and tell you it is alright because everyone else is doing it.
  • Lie about someone and again tell you it is alright because everyone else is saying the same thing.
  • Tell you to fit in with the community or "in crowd" you should be doing this or mixing with this group, etc.

Please try to be a bit more empathic and understanding and rise above the modern need to bully and abuse, if you do not you are creating a particularly toxic future for yourselves and your children. Society should try and stop the trend of suicide, self harm and abuse amongst adults and children alike.
]]> Sat, 18 Jan 2020 12:21:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?cheshire-police-chief-launches-campaign-against--epidemic--of-bullying https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/000000023 <![CDATA[Quite possibly another psychopathic setup]]> imblog
My wife telephoned and said our dog had nipped a post woman's coat.

Police turned up in the evening and now it is advised that the dog now wears a muzzle when out in public.

Apparently my wife had passed the post woman the first time and the dog was fine and just walked by. However, further along the post woman suddenly turned up behind my wife, catching her out, and the dog jumped up and nipped her coat. The post woman then said you’re the woman from such and such a house and telephoned the police. The post woman would have had to really rush to turn up where and when she did!

This would seem to have all the hallmarks of a psychopathic setup, the postal workers have had it in for the dog ever since we got him in just the the same way as they had it in for my previous dog before he was killed. Then the police true to form act as facilitators for the abuse, it is quite possible the ongoing abuse was originally instigated by the police considering the lies I have been told by the police in the past regarding other incidents may indicate this.

The moral here is if youy are being mobbed try and protect yourself and pets when out in public. The mob will take every opportunity to cause trouble. All you can do is try to minimise those opportunities.

It is interesting that a Cheshire police chief has launched a campaign against the epidemic of bullying and wants to tackle the bullying of children and adults. The article can be viewed here. (https://www.cheshire-live.co.uk/news/cheshire-police-chief-launches-campaign-16472689)

I doubt it will get very far as too much abuse is facilitated and accentuated by individual members of the police. In far too many cases abuse victims have either commited suicide or have been murdered after contacting the police. Some targets of abuse have been cautioned, fined or even imprisoned by the police when trying to reach out for help with their dire predicament; feeling they have no one to turn to they feel there is no other option but suicide or the perpetrator gets impatienbt and decides to kill the target themselves. Forums, blogs and other literature which is aimed at supporting targets of abuse often say to be very careful when approaching the police for help. In my case the mobbing started in earnest after trying to reach out to the police for help.


]]> Sat, 18 Jan 2020 11:38:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?possibly-another-psychopathic-setup https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/000000022 <![CDATA[Narcissistic mob and scapegoating in Blaxton]]> imblog
Narcissism often focuses on the individual but this is narrow minded there are often people who are targeted by groups of narcissists often led by a narcissistic pack leader. The group may be made up of narcissists or a mixture of narcissists and toxic enablers. The group members will have their own flying monkeys they can recruit into the mobbing campaign which they can use to promote smear campaigns using gossip, slander and lies to further their toxic agenda. The purpose of the targeted individual is to be used as a scapegoat for all the mobs toxic activities and shortcomings.

This is something I have been made aware of for some years now and it has the village of Blaxton in a stranglehold which it seems unable to shake off. There is a fairly large group of toxic individuals making the village appear a lot more antisocial than it actually is but no one in the know has the courage to speak up and break the cycle. In fact some people who knew about the mobbing campaign effectively appear to have escaped and moved away from the village rather than participate in it.

The sociopathic or narcissistic pack leader will be having a good laugh at everyone in the village who have turned bad due to their manipulations, it is what they live for. Some of the people who have turned extremely toxic will not realise how bad they have become while most really will not care as it adds some drama to their lives. The grouo may not even know who the real leader is due to the way social media can be used with fake profiles, etc. The instigator probably does not even live in the area they have targeted and will present themselves as decent, friendly people while in reality they are evil personified; this enables them to live in a decent community while producing a toxic community far removed from them.

A good paragraph from the link below is provided below:

Therapist Christine Hammond (2017) writes that:

“The purpose of a scapegoat is to pass responsibility onto someone else. Usually this person is unsuspecting at first and agrees because they are trying to get along with others. This technique of passing the buck is very common with narcissists, sociopaths, and addicts. Narcissists can’t allow their ego to be tarnished by an error. Sociopaths do it for the sport of it.”

An article which covers this topic can be viewed at The Narcissistic Conspiracy: Scapegoating, Smear Campaigns And Black Sheep – How Narcissistic Groups Bully Their Chosen Victims by Shahida Arabi (Updated October 5, 2018)
]]> Sat, 05 Oct 2019 11:08:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?narcissistic-mob-and-scapegoating-in-blaxton https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/000000021 <![CDATA[DARVO]]> imblog
DARVO

A common strategic tactic used by pathological narcissists, stalkers and other toxic individuals is known as DARVO. Social media can even be used to employ total strangers to use the DARVO technique against the target especially as part of a mobbing campaign.

D - Denial
A - Attack
R - Reverse Roles of
V - Victim and
O - Offender

This behaviour has been used by generations of pathological narcissists, stalkers and other toxic individuals in order to avoid detection and evade confrontation.  If properly executed DARVO isolates the target of stalking, harassment and abuse from any effective support.

Toxic organisations which may include the police, NHS, mental health services, councils, etc, have anti-abuse policies which often fail the target and allow abusive managers and officers to target individuals in the same way. Targeted individuals who have turned to the authorities for help have often found it to be at most unhelpful and in some cases have made the abuse much, much worse.

DARVO strategically delays or defeats justice and prolongs the stress of the target, giving the perpetrator maximum opportunity to destroy him or her.  By exposing this particularly malicious, evil tactic it is hoped that targets, supporters and other individuals can learn how to break the cycle of stalking attacks, and shorten or curtail the targets exposure to this intense form of abuse.  No target should ever be left to tackle a stalker alone but it is usual for the target to be isolated and demonised by their abusers so have no choice in the matter.

How Stalking Works

Stalkers are sneak attackers, expert in causing mental pain in ways that only the target, or someone with rare empathy can recognise.  They often exploit some unique personal characteristics or perceived failures on the part of the target in the attack. Slander, lies, half truths and faked evidence are used to attack and hurt the target as much as possible often in a way were others would not be hurt.  This often makes it very difficult for others to understand.

Perpetrators enjoy unwanted contact with their targets often through third parties who are more than happy to join in the stalking campaign.  It helps to control and sadistically destroy their target.  This is achieved by using the victims emotions as a weapon to de-stabilise them and may eventually invoke mental illness; think of many of the mass shootings which regularly occur in the Unites States of America.  As a last resort the perpetrator may employ violence if they cannot achieve what they want emotionally. If the perpetrator cannot control the target they will try to control everyone around the target, most people being willing participants in this control!

Unwanted Contact and Intrusions

In stalking or abuse, contact incidents are extremely unpleasant for the target, being designed to engage  him or her and the stalker or a third party being utilised by the stalker in a conflict situation.  How the target handles the manufactured conflict will decide the outcome for them.

Normally when a conflict occurs it results in an outcome which can easily be forgotten and both parties move on.  The target who exposes any attractive characteristics to a psychopath to narcissist or who does not handle conflict well is eventually drawn into a destructive relationship. As the perpetrators intention is to destroy or eliminate the target, and overt violence is risky and illegal, the conflict is carried out by attacking any emotional weaknesses in the target to cause stress.

Witnesses are nearly always present during an attack to serve a number of purposes such as to show the target is unstable, violent, etc. The target must always remember all conflicts and incidents are manufactured in order to try and make them look bad. There are a great many individuals who are willing to act as witnesses and instigators of attacks and are easily recruited using social media. Over time the effect of a huge number of incidents can damage the targets’ self confidence, reputation and can totally isolate the target as most people they know become totally untrustworthy. Social media has an awful lot to answer for!

As a loyal, law abiding citizen, the target only wants to go about his own business and maintain his reputation as an honest member of the community but this may become impossible.  

The individuals living around a stalker or pathological narcissist tend to live in fear, and when they see what is happening they tend to gratify the perpetrators behaviour or turn their back on the target, both acts encourage the perpetrator. Selected targets often find it difficult to provide an appropriate response and will often go through stress, anxiety and a condition called hyper-vigilance which will cause the target to isolate themselves and avoid members of the community who present themselves to be a threat. The threat may just be an individual continually turning up when the target is out and about or people saying inappropriate things at just the wrong time; most people will appear to be troublemakers who are in league with the perpetrator and obviously some will be.

Mediation and face to face meetings between the target and offender will not work as the perpetrator will use these techniques to paint the target in a bad light. The perpetrators aim is to keep their own name clear by avoiding being caught, and demonise or label the victim.  To the target the perpetrator is an abuser and to anybody else they appear to be a truly great neighbour.

How DARVO works

Denial
When a victim begins to relate the impact of the perpetrators behaviour,  during any resulting confrontation between the victim or a third party supporter, the stalker denies any offence or meaning, caused by his or her actions.  Feigning apology may lull the situation.  A tissue of lies and half-truths will be used to support this.  Due to the credibility of the stalker and his or her excuses, denial serves the purpose of asserting their preferred version of events.

Attack
To embed this view, a diversionary or counter attack can also be mounted.  This has the aim of discrediting the victim, commonly shifting the focus onto some offensive action purported to have been committed by them. A fictitious event or some minor misdemeanour or performance issue blown out of proportion will suffice.  This gives false reason and motive to the real offenders action and diverts the spotlight away from the original (victims) complaint.  Such attacks often involve a “characteristic” of the victim, for example one very effective tool is to claim the victim is ill or unfit, (even though this is due to the stalkers action).  Labels are used to stigmatise the victim with mental health or performance problems, incompetence or a fictitious criminal record.

Reverse Role of Victim/Offender.
The perpetrators aim is to portray the victim as being responsible for the offence.  “Because you did this, I did that”.  A fantasy version of “events” puts the victim in the position of wronging the perpetrator or other parties involved.

The aim is for the perpetrator to get the support of the local community surrounding the victim as well as that of the investigator and eventually the victims friends and family.

If successful:

  • The victim is further isolated, while the stalkers behaviour remains unchallenged or they gain status.
  • Investigators will shift their judgement to the target and lose the will to act against the perpetrator.
    Another version of this occurs in workplaces when HR investigators on the organisations payroll begin to act for the perpetrator.

Gaining Advantage – The Perpetrator
Stalkers are obsessive and therefore convinced in their right to pursue a course of action in what is often a fantasy or delusional situation involving a target.  In one mode, he or she has well developed powers of persuasion and charm.  Also they may have, or think they have rank, status and power in the community, (or organisation)  above the victim.  If not they may attempt to cultivate a relationship and get support from somebody who has the muscle, rank and status, which can then be used to carry out attacks by proxy.  This may be a higher value boss, a council official or a police officer etc.  The more senior the better.

He or she may vent victimising others when they don’t conform to expectations, or escalate until he finds people who he can suck into the situation, to pull rank, causing a break in the process or a diversion.

Perverting the Course of Justice
By gaining the support of the investigator(s), further advantages are given to the perpetrator,  enabled by the action or failure to act of investigators and the victim.  These actions or in-actions make it much less likely the target will obtain justice.  A short list of actions and outcomes from the targets' experiences follows:

  • Target.  Avoidance of the perpetrator(s).  Due to the obsessive nature of this offence the perpetrator will re-engineer contact often using third parties.
  • Target.  Denial shutting off from what just happened at the end of an incident under the assumption it is over and the perpetrator won’t return.  This leaves the target exposed to further attacks.
  • Target.  Misunderstanding the role of the perpetrator, blaming themselves or being blamed by others.
  • Target.  Following bad advice to do any of the above.
  • Target\Police.  Taking no action to prevent further attacks. Police (or investigators) fail to use powers or invoke laws or policy and may even side with the perpetrator.  Target fails to learn lessons or take preventative measures to stop repeat incidents. Perpetrator thinks he can get away with it and the attacks intensify.
  • Police.  Multiple uncoordinated incidents, with more than one investigator, no single controlling mind.
  • Police.  Applying dispute management or conflict resolution processes which give equal weight to the perpetrator and target, inadvertently giving the perpetrator the advantage over the target due to the target being out of their depth when dealing with a pathological individual.
  • Police.  Fear of the stalker.  Allowing them to control the situation, and to escalate through the ranks to find and target decision makers.
  • Organisations.  Who use employees to investigate allegations.  This escalates the stalking behaviour and is a tool which can be easily manipulated to bring overwhelming defeat to the target instead of offering protection.  Organisations that do this almost certainly have a toxic culture.

Counter DARVO

DARVO is very difficult to counter as many people in the community take part in it due to fear or just as unbelievably for fun, the authorities usually side with the perpetrators which makes the target feeling very isolated. The target will have lost friends and family, will have often suffered mobbing at work and in the community so finding themselves in an extremely evil scenario which they could never have envisioned unless they were pathological in some way. The police in particular have a long history of failing targets of stalking and mobbing hence the long list of targets who have committed suicide or have been murdered due to the failure of the “system”; lessons are never learned and if people were honest they would say nothing ever changes.

Fundamental flaws in police processes include but are not limited to:

  • Dropping and closing incidents without reviewing with the target.
  • Never referring back to the target over the outcome; whether it was satisfactory or not.
  • Attempting face to face mediation when it was not appropriate.
  • Not allowing the target from seeing any information on them in police logs.
  • Threatening targets with police cautions for raising the issue of their abuse.
  • Fining targets for wasting police time when continually asking for help often resulting in murder and suicide.
  • Making assumptions about the target without any evidence or justification.
  • Targets often feel the police have gaslighted them or have lied to them which destroys their faith in the police and the authorities in general.
  • The police will often side with the perpetrator due to believing fictional stories of conflicts which portray the target as the perpetrator which is standard role reversal, a key element of DARVO.

The target has to realise the situation they are in and start to think about the following:

  • Log every event keeping videos, photographs and other evidence as appropriate.
  • Improve the security of their home. Consider a good burglar alarm, CCTV and good locks.
  • Take care with tradesmen, the police, council officials, etc. Not all of these individuals are trustworthy.
  • Vary any routes used to work, to the shops, etc. Try not to be too predictable.
  • The target has to be very careful who they share personal information with, it will be used against the target.
  • Keep your phone numbers and email addresses as private as possible. A mobile phone can be used to track the target, just from the mobile number.
  • Keep calm, do not get drawn into conflicts or incidents with strangers, these incidents are staged and there will be a stooge nearby recording everything.
  • Minimise or stop any use of social media, it is a tool used to promote hate campaigns all over the world and most of the in formation on it is probably fake anyway.
  • Keep pets safe, these are prime targets for the perpetrator and they are keen to kill or hurt the targets’ pets wherever and whenever possible.
]]> Sun, 25 Aug 2019 15:42:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?darvo https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/000000020 <![CDATA[Toxic Lives]]> imblog

Turning negative situations around. An occasional online account of every day struggles for people in toxic situations, Toxic Lives focuses on those things that affect mental and physical well-being, pulling together the information needed to tackle poisonous situations in the most likely places and campaigning for change, so that people can get on with their lives, free from interference or stress.

]]> Sat, 24 Aug 2019 21:41:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?toxic-lives https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/00000001F <![CDATA[Interesting quotes about pathological narcissism]]> imblog
Quote 1.
This quote is particularly relevant to the author's situation in which a pathological naricissist has decided to control as many people as possible in Blaxton, Doncaster, Wakefield and the author's workplace in order to carry out a mobbing campaign.

It would have to be assumed social media is the tool of choice in order to carry out this mobbing campaign.

This is a two way street and works as follows the perpetrators think they know the author has done something terrible just on the say so of the pathological narcissist. This means that a lot of people treat the author with suspicion and contempt and naturally this causes the author to keep away from most people as they often prove to be toxic to the author.

Quote 2.
Pathological narcissists lie as a matter of course and they will even lie when the truth would serve them better, it is totally ingrained into who and what they are. They also encourage their followers to lie on their behalf and involve and implicate them in their schemes and plots.

Pathological narcissists absolutely love drama oftren using power and control to achieve their aims. The power and control element means a lot of pathological narcissists become members of the armed forces, the police, the medical profession, in fact any profession or role which gives them power over other people's lives.

This is why so many targets of abuse are let down by the very people who have supposedly sworn to serve and protect them, sad but true.


People who are not narcissists really do not understand how easy they are manipulated especially if they like gossip and drama in their lives. Pathological narcissists make good use of these people as they make good followers and are useful tools in running a hate camapaign. A lie is supposedly given credance because of the number of people repeating it, however a lie is just a lie no matter how many times it is repeated and no matter who repeats it.

Quote 3.
If you have been targeted for narcissistic abuse it is because the naricissist envies you and is deeply jealous of you. Narcissists are not capable of real love or joy, they can only destroy.

They are delusional believing everyone envies and looks upt to them and if they feel threatened by a decent, honest human being they will go all out to destroy them.

If they cannot control their target or targets they will try to control everyone else who comes into contact with the target to make them think the target has some kind of issue.



The common themes used for the smear campaign will usually revolve around the following:

  • The target is mentally ill.
  • The target is a drug addict.
  • The target is an alcoholic.
  • The target is a paedophile.
    This would seem to be the most common slander nowadays as it would appear to be fashionable and easy to spread around the community. Of course there is no proof required, the lie is enough.
  • The target is violent.
  • The target is unstable.
  • All of the above and more.
]]> Sat, 24 Aug 2019 21:10:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?interesting-quotes-about-pathological-narcissism https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/00000001E <![CDATA[Serial fantasist who stalked and terrorised ex pal caged for three-year hate campaign]]> imblog
The following article shows the type of hate and smear campaign waged against me is more common then most people realise, the only surprising thing is the amount of people who leap at the chance to get involved with such a campaign. The sheriff called the perpetrator a fantasist, in reality she is most likely a psychopath who is not capable of remorse and will only regret being caught after 3 terrible years for the targets of her abuse; the only reason for her campaign will be for her own enjoyment not for revenge or any other reason. In my case the abuse has gone on for much longer!

I would think the tools for the campaign used against me are similar such as fake social media profiles, pictures and ridiculous stories. Most people seem to ignore the fact that most of the information on the internet and social media is false and is there for manipulation purposes. It also demonstrates how one stalker can blight several lives and the article will only show the people they know about, there are probably hundreds of people who she has affected who are not lucky enough to obtain any form of justice.

I wonder how she got caught, it would appear to be because of the media coverage rather than any police investigation. The impression I have always been given is the police tend to side with the abuser in these kind of cases often becoming part of the problem for the target of abuse rather than any help.

Article taken from the Daily Record 17/07/2019.


Serial fantasist who stalked and terrorised ex pal caged for three-year hate campaign
Jill Sharp has been sentenced to 12 months for waging a twisted campaign of hate against Margaret and Steven Paton.
By Alan McEwen 04:30, 17 JUL 2019

Jill Sharp waged a twisted campaign of hate against Margaret and Steven Paton (Image: Daily Record)

A fantasist was jailed yesterday for stalking and terrorising a former friend as a sheriff branded her actions “disgraceful and wicked”.
Jill Sharp wept in the dock after being sentenced to 12 months for waging a twisted campaign of hate against the pal and her partner.
Sharp created fake online profiles as she carried out a sinister plot to torment Margaret and Steven Paton over a three-year period.
She sent emails to the couple’s workplaces with false claims that they were involved in criminal activity, including dealing drugs to kids. Sentencing her yesterday, Sheriff Douglas Kinloch said Sharp “succeeded” in ruining the Patons’ lives, leaving them on medication and unable to work for lengthy periods.

The sheriff said he’d considered calling for a psychiatric assessment of Sharp in a bid to shed light on her behaviour but he didn’t believe such a report could explain her “deliberate and malicious” crimes which showed a “high degree of planning”. After sentencing, Margaret said justice had been done. She added: “This woman caused so much damage to Steve and I over a period of years and it affected our jobs and our health. “To finally see her being led away in handcuffs felt like a huge weight was lifted from our lives.”


Victims Steven and Maggie Paton were targeted by Jill Sharp (Image: Daily Record)

The Record first exposed Sharp’s activities in February 2017 when we told how she stalked a man who had never met her and didn’t know who she was.

Sharp, of Airdrie, created a fake second life using photos Graham McQuet and his real fiancee Marianne Stirling put on social media.
We told how she copied their ­movements so she could be pictured in places they had visited, then posted loved-up images on social media. She also set up a fake Twitter account for her “boyfriend” and sent romantic messages between them. Sharp then told her friends online and in her local pub that Graham had proposed and they were marrying later this year.
However, mistakes in her pictures were spotted and friends realised the photos had been faked and tracked down Graham and Marianne. Victim Margaret believes Sharp dreamed up her bogus romance with Graham out of jealousy to copy her after she got engaged to Steven. Sharp would later launch a torrent of abuse against Margaret and her husband, blaming them for our stories about her fake fiancé.


Jill Sharp created a fake second life using photos of Graham McQuet and his real fiancée Marianne Stirling (Image: Internet Unknown)

Yesterday, Sharp, 33, appeared at Livingston Sheriff Court, where she had previously pled guilty to a charge under stalking laws. She admitted causing fear and alarm to Margaret and Steven between January 2014 and August 2017.

Yesterday’s hearing had been set aside for a legal debate after Sharp tried to withdraw her guilty plea in May. The court was told that bid to change her plea was not going ahead so the sheriff moved to sentencing. Sheriff Kinloch said: “This was a disgraceful and wicked attempt to ruin the lives of two people who had previously been your friends. “For more than three years you conducted a campaign in a calculated and deliberate attempt to ruin their lives. In this aim you succeeded.” He said “probably the most serious part” of her offending was emails sent to the Patons’ employers to demand they were sacked. The sheriff said their victims suffered “very serious distress”, and were prescribed medication for stress and depression. The court heard Sharp had a university degree and good employment history. Sheriff Kinloch added: “I can’t begin to understand why your mind was working in such a way that you acted as you did, though you confessed to police your motivation was revenge.


Jill Sharp is led away by police after being arrested in 2017 (Image: Steve Welsh 2017)

“You still have no real ­understanding of the affect on your victims.” Along with the 12-month term, he gave first offender Sharp a five-year non-­harassment order banning her from contacting, or seeking to contact, the Patons. We previously told how Margaret met Sharp met through a shared love of Rangers FC. They began ­chatting about football on Twitter and began meeting for games at Ibrox. But the friendship took a sinister turn after Margaret and Steven got engaged. Sharp used social media accounts and emailed addresses which concealed her identity to contact Margaret, Steven and other people connected to them at their workplaces. She visited Margaret’s ­work at Sky TV in ­Livingston and sent her colleagues emails. These messages contained malicious and threatening remarks, and allegations that she and Steven were involved in crime. She sent further emails to Steven’s work at a housing ­association, with more threatening remarks and ­allegations he was a criminal.

She sent letters to his colleague containing more abuse and made-up allegations of criminal behaviour. She posted messages on social media in relation to Margaret which contained abusive and threatening remarks and left voicemails for Margaret with sectarian remarks and threats of violence.


Jill Sharp initially pled guilty to a charge under stalking laws before trying to change her plea (Image: Daily Record)

Twisted fantasist stalked fellow Rangers fan and called her a f****** fenian
Margaret believed Sharp began sending her strange texts and online messages while posing as her bogus lover. The influx of weird messages began to affect her health and she confronted Sharp. Margaret previously recalled: “I said I wasn’t happy and told her I didn’t want to hear any more of these messages. “Instead of backing off, she went on a Twitter rampage, telling people I was depressed and not right in the head.”

She added: “She sent me four voicemails that went beyond what had gone before. She said she was coming to my house and was going to do violence to me. “She came out with vile sectarian stuff, saying I was no better than a f****** fenian. It was bigoted stuff that decent Rangers fans wouldn’t condone.” At court, Iain Smith, defending, said his client sought “revenge” because the Patons blamed them for the story about her invented relationship. He said: “She takes no pleasure in what she did. She regrets it.”


The Record's story that exposed Jill Sharp (Image: Daily Record)
]]> Sat, 20 Jul 2019 09:07:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?serial-fantasist-who-stalked-and-terrorised-ex-pal-caged-for-three-year-hate-campaign https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/00000001D <![CDATA[Mobbing ]]> imblog
The following paragraphs have been taken from the book Mobbed!: What to Do When They Really Are Out to Get You by Janice Harper. (Backdoor Press)


Mobbing is bullying run amuck and it is cruel and inhumane. But as I show in these pages, it is also human. And because it is human, it cannot be stopped. But it can be better understood, and if it is better understood, it is my hope that fewer people will get caught up in it when one of their coworkers or a member of their group is targeted. It is my hope that everyone who reads this book will think twice before gossiping about someone who is under attack, will think twice about shunning them, and will think twice about attacking them even further.

Mobbing targets don’t need any more attacks; they need help.

The remedy all too often recommended: bullies should be branded, exiled, sued and publicly shamed. But is that so bad? Let’s face it, if you are the target of someone’s irrational aggression, whether at work, school or in your community, that sentiment is exactly what you want to hear. Because to have someone come after you can be a devastating experience. It can and does demoralize people, reduce them to tears, make them feel like crap, destroy their reputation, and even drive some to suicide, if not homicide.

Given all that, what’s wrong with going after bullies? What’s wrong is this: trite as it sounds, you can’t change anyone else’s behavior; you can only change your own. And there’s another reason, maybe even more important: bullying snowballs into mobbing very quickly. Once it does, the people who will do you the most harm won’t be “the bullies.” They will be your friends and coworkers. And how is it going to sound if you alone point to half the workforce and say they’re all bullies? You’ll sound crazy.

What’s happening when a whole bunch of people turn on you is called mobbing. Mobbing is group bullying run amuck where you are shunned, sabotaged, and put through the system with a series of bad reviews, passed opportunities, warnings, gossip and accusations that often lead to investigations and inquisitions that can ultimately destroy your career.

Mobbing is group aggression, and it is distinct from bullying because the people who engage in it include not only “bullies,” but once supportive, friendly, non-aggressive people who have suddenly been encouraged to see you as a threat.

When that happens, the person who is ultimately driven out will not necessarily be the most aggressive or abusive. The person who will be branded, exiled and publicly shamed as “the problem” and maybe even as “the bully” is always the person who has the least amount of power. And that person could very well be you, if someone’s out to get you.


Further to the above I wonder how you cope with the killing of innocent pets if you are not narcissistic/psychopathic, surely it would be difficult to salve your conscience especially if you are supposedly an animal lover or a veterinary surgeon/nurse. Personally I would hate to have something like this on my conscience and yes, I am fortunate to have a conscience with normal feelings. The killing of innocent pets is taking hate, spite and evil too far and can only do much to damage the perpetrators of such atrocities event they are not capable of realising this.

It would appear in the case of most "normal" people it is a case of bad people just waiting for an opportunity to reveal themselves.
]]> Sat, 13 Jul 2019 09:13:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?mobbing https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/00000001C <![CDATA[Antisocial behaviour ignored by authorities]]> imblog

Antisocial behaviour ignored by authorities, report claims

Commissioner for England and Wales says many victims left to suffer in silence
Press Association
Tue 30 Apr 2019 10.43 BSTFirst published on Tue 30 Apr 2019 09.44 BST

Street drinking or drunken behaviour is the most common form of ASB. Photograph: Matt Cardy/Getty

Antisocial behaviour (ASB) is being played down or ignored by the authorities despite blighting the lives of victims, according to a report.

People persistently targeted by perpetrators are left to suffer in silence amid shortcomings in the response by agencies including the police and councils, it has been claimed.

Publishing the findings, the victims’ commissioner for England and Wales, Helen Newlove, said “depressingly little” had changed since her husband, Garry, was killed outside his home after confronting vandals in 2007.

She said: “It seems implausible that, 12 years later, here I am still raising the issue of antisocial behaviour. The feedback from victims is that, all too often, they feel they are being persistently targeted by their perpetrators, and yet ignored by those with the power to prevent and intervene. For many victims, their experience can be like living a nightmare.”

Antisocial behaviour (ASB) is a blanket term for conduct that can cause harassment, alarm or distress. Examples listed on the police.uk website include vandalism, street drinking, prostitution-related activity, misuse of fireworks, and nuisance, rowdy or inconsiderate neighbours.

Produced in partnership with the charity ASB Help and Nottingham Trent University, the report:

• Cites analysis suggesting street drinking or drunken behaviour is the most common form of ASB experienced or witnessed, followed by groups hanging around.

• Has found that a mechanism known as the community trigger – introduced to act as a safety net for ASB victims – is largely unknown, even among those working in frontline agencies;

• Says victims are passed from one agency to another, face lengthy delays when calling the 101 police non-emergency number, and often feel the needs of perpetrators are given more weight than their own;

• And warns that the cumulative effect of antisocial behaviour is often not taken into account, resulting in authorities failing to appreciate the scale of the impact on those affected.

The assessment says antisocial behaviour can cause immense distress and suffering, affecting victims’ health, sleep, work and relationships, and leaving them feeling unsafe at home.

In one case cited in the report, a woman is said to have been subjected to “two years of hell” by a neighbour. She said: “Even now, I can’t relax at all, I can’t rest in that house. It’s going to take many, many months, I think. I mean, the stress has been phenomenal.”

Calling for systemic change, Lady Newlove said she found it “infuriating” to hear antisocial behaviour referred to as low-level crime.

“That description illustrates very neatly how ASB is often treated as a series of isolated incidents, rather than taking into account the cumulative effect that it has on its victims,” she said.

Setting out her blueprint for improving the response, the commissioner called for those repeatedly affected by anti-social behaviour to be given the same entitlement to support as victims of other crimes. She also recommended a review of the 101 phone line to ensure it was “fit for purpose”.

The Crime Survey for England and Wales estimated that 37% of adult respondents experienced or witnessed antisocial behaviour in their local area last year – the highest proportion since data collection started in 2011-12.

Separate figures show about 1.4m incidents of antisocial behaviour were recorded by police in 2018, a 16% fall on the previous 12 months.

A Local Government Association spokesman said: “Councils know people look to them to tackle the antisocial behaviour which can make a law-abiding resident’s life hell or blight an entire neighbourhood.

“It’s a role they take extremely seriously but one which is being made increasingly challenging as a result of losing 60p out of every £1 they had from government to spend on services in the past decade.”

Deputy Assistant Commissioner Laurence Taylor, The national police lead for antisocial behaviour, said: “We are working with local authorities and other agencies to effectively combat ASB and empower victims and communities.”

He added that further long-term funding was needed as forces were “under increasing strain as they deal with rising crime, demand that is more complex and a raised terror threat with fewer officers”.

A government spokesman said it was “committed to tackling antisocial behaviour and ensuring victims get the response they deserve”.

He added: “That is why we reformed powers available to the police, local authorities and others to tackle antisocial behaviour and continue to keep them under review.”

It should be noted that this is the tip of the iceberg people targeted by abusers often find the very people who should help and support them actively side with the abuser which often leads to community mobbing and escalation of the abuse. In a large number of cases this leads to the target taking their own life as they feel they have no one to turn to for aid; unfortunately they are often quite correct. Support groups such as the Samaritans and 12 step organisation cannot and will not help with this, what is needed is for organisations with people who have been targeted for abuse but have recovered, these people know what they are talking about are not just theorising. It is of little use to targets of abuse hearing the same old rhetoric after yet another death such as:

  • “Lessons have been learned”
  • “Procedures are being reviewed”
  • “We have lost the evidence”
  • “To serve and protect”
  • etc, etc, etc

The trend of victim blaming needs to stop as this is leading to the destruction of too many lives, the authorities seem to bend over backwards to protect the criminal fraternity while treating hard working, law abiding citizens with contempt. This is ridiculous and is eroding respect for the police and authorities which is demonstrated on a daily basis.
]]> Tue, 30 Apr 2019 19:59:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?antisocial-behaviour-ignored-by-authorities https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/00000001B <![CDATA[Ten pointers to human self destruction]]> imblog
Ten pointers to human self-destruction courtesy of LiveScience.com.

  1. Gossiping
  2. Gambling
  3. Stress
  4. Body modification
  5. Bullying
  6. Clinging to bad habits (smoking, drinking, eating to excess, and so on)
  7. Cheating
  8. Stealing
  9. A craving for violence
  10. Lying

It should be noted that gossiping is the number one self destructive behaviour with bullying, cheating, stealing, violence and lying being on the list of these toxic behaviours.

How people display self destructive behaviours are shown below.

  • They fail to take action
  • They push people away
  • They refuse offers of help
  • They make unnecessary self-sacrifices
  • They portray themselves as incapable or incompetent
  • They self-harm
  • They deliberately harm others (narcissistic/psychopathic behaviour)
  • They abuse alcohol and drugs (narcissistic/psychopathic behaviour)
  • They hide from their emotions
  • They suffer bouts of self-pity (narcissistic/psychopathic behaviour)
  • They spend too much (narcissistic/psychopathic behaviour)
  • They neglect themselves, both physically and mentally (narcissistic/psychopathic behaviour is quite the opposite, it is common for narcissists/psychopaths to be hypochondriacs)
  • They sabotage relationships (narcissistic/psychopathic behaviour)
  • They live recklessly (narcissistic/psychopathic behaviour)
  • They commit social suicide (narcissistic/psychopathic behaviour)
  • They commit actual suicide (occasional narcissistic/psychopathic behaviour if and when found out)

It can be seen that a lot of self destructive behaviour is common to psychopaths/narcissists although these individuals seem to be totally oblivious to what they do.

Author's Opinion
The human agenda would seem to be a narcissistic agenda leading to self destruction, it is impossible to have never ending growth as our leaders would have everyone believe, the world is only a finite size after all. We have probably passed the tipping point for the earth's natural world and natural resources and we have uncontrolled population growth. In nature populations are controlled by lack of resources such as food and predators, the only predators humans have are other humans. There does not appear to be any long term plan for the human species and even though more and more humans are becoming aware of the impending ecological disaster no one really knows what to do about it, so we blunder on regardless, expending resources as if there is no tomorrow (maybe there isn't one for humans if nothing changes!).

Even without climate change and all the other impending disasters there will come a time were we will be unable to supply ourselves with food and water unless there is some dramatic change to the human approach to life and other living things. As the supposedly most intelligent species on this planet it is surely our collective responsibility to look after it and all it's inhabitants and over rule our natural instincts of self interest and greed. After all it is our own future generations which are going to reap the whirlwind if nothing is done.

Readers may wonder why the above few paragraphs are relevant to a web site on narcissistic abuse, bullying and mobbing; it is extremely relevant; the way nations are controlled is bullying and narcissistic control on a much larger scale. Narcissists often lead their followers down the path of mutual self destruction, it would appear our national leaders are following the same path. As always the silent majority, the bystanders who leave action to someone else and hope for change, will sit back and wait until it is far too late which will probably assure their own mutual destruction.

As a fellow human being the author fully aware of their own weaknesses and shortcomings being just as guilty of playing a part in the human route to self destruction owning consumer goods, a home, etc. However, the author is also aware that if the human race is to survive it must change for the good of the whole planet, short term gains and agendas are no longer viable in the modern era, long term goals are necessary possibly spanning hundreds, if not thousands, of years.
]]> Sat, 20 Apr 2019 16:09:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?ten-pointers-to-human-self-destruction https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/00000001A <![CDATA[Police attitude to stalking, abuse and harassment]]> imblog
The two articles listed below are about two unfortunate women who were stalked and ultimately murdered by their stalkers demonstrates the very poor attitude of the police to individuals targeted by stalkers. The articles can be viewed at:

These articles reflect the author's personal experience of reporting abuse and harassment to the police.

Common points are:

  • The author being made to feel like some sort of criminal.
  • Police behaving in an offhand and dishonest way to undermine the targeted individual.
  • Police acting in an aggressive and bullying manner which leaves the targeted individual even more isolated.
  • Police seem to side with the abuser(s) not with the targeted individual. Bear in mind that abusers are better at lying than the targeted individual is at telling the truth so it is likely the abuser(s) will sound very plausible, even though it is all lies.
  • In the author's case a mobbing campaign commenced after reporting the abuse to the police.

It is this attitude of the police and authorities to targets of stalking and mobbing that gives the abuser(s) the belief they can continue their abuse unhindered until the inevitable conclusion.

The articles confirm the author's and many other targeted individual's belief that approaching the police for help with any form of abuse may be a very bad mistake and may cause the abuse to escalate exponentially. The police are unlikely to help and in fact may make matters much worse, the targeted individual need to look to themselves in order to combat the abuse. The targeted individual should assume the stalking and/or mobbing has the aim of their murder and should behave accordingly by taking as many precautions as possible while not relying on the authorities for help.

All police forces have statements about approaching them if you are stalked but actions speak louder than words with case after case of failed victims piling up at their doors. The only positive thing about all the reports of failed stalking victims is the publicity and the raising of public awareness to the scourge that is stalking and mobbing.
]]> Thu, 11 Apr 2019 19:10:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?poilce-attitude-to-stalking,-abuse-and-harassment https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/000000019 <![CDATA[Shana Grice: Disciplinary action for Sussex Police officers]]> imblog

The text of the article is provided below.

Three police officers are facing disciplinary action over the case of a woman who was fined for wasting police time when she reported the stalker ex who went on to murder her.

  • Shana Grice, 19, reported Michael Lane five times before he slit her throat and tried to burn her body.
  • Her parents slammed Sussex Police for "treating her like a criminal", adding the action was "too little too late".
  • A report found stalking cases were not being properly investigated.
  • Two officers - one retired - will face gross misconduct proceedings at public hearings in May.
  • A third officer faces internal misconduct action.

No further action will be taken against five officers investigated by the Independent Office for Police Conduct (IOPC), while six other force employees - three officers and three staff - have been given "management advice and further training".
The independent report by Her Majesty's Inspectorate of Constabulary and Fire & Rescue Services (HMICFRS) was commissioned after Miss Grice was killed in her bedroom in Portslade, near Brighton, East Sussex, in 2016.
Stalking and harassment is more common in Sussex than the national average, it said.
However, victims were often not referred to specialised support services and the force regularly failed to use powers including searching perpetrators' homes or seeking injunctions.
Lane fitted a tracker to Miss Grice's car and stole a house key to sneak into her room as she slept. He was given a life sentence with a minimum term of 25 years in March 2017.
It later emerged that 13 other women had reported him to police for stalking.
At his sentencing, Mr Justice Nicholas Green said officers had "jumped to conclusions" and "stereotyped" Miss Grice.
Assistant Chief Constable Nick May said: "We deeply regret the tragic death of Shana Grice in 2016 and are committed to constantly improving our understanding of stalking and our response to it.
"When we looked at the circumstances leading to Shana's murder, we felt we may not have done the very best we could and made a referral to the IOPC."

'Poor attitude'
Sharon Grice and Richard Green said: "Our daughter took her concerns to the police and instead of being protected was treated like a criminal. She paid for the police's lack of training, care and poor attitude with her life.
"It's only right that the police make changes, but it's too little, too late for Shana.
"Sussex Police should not be applauded for this."

Sarah Green, co-director of the End Violence Against Women Coalition, said: "The police watchdog findings that Sussex Police failed and that there will be misconduct hearings are welcome, but much more is needed.
"Numerous inquests and inquiries have found that multiple police forces have failed to protect women who were murdered."
The report also called on the National Police Chiefs' Council (NPCC) for a single definition for stalking to be adopted by police forces and government departments.
Sussex Police has been given three months to make improvements.
]]> Wed, 10 Apr 2019 11:06:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?shana-grice--disciplinary-action-for-sussex-police-officers https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/000000017 <![CDATA[Alice Ruggles: Police and Army 'failed' stalking victim]]> imblog
The BBC article can be viewed at https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-tyne-47617329.

The text of the article can be viewed below.

  • Police and Army bosses have been criticised for failings leading up to the death of a stalking victim at the hands of her soldier ex-boyfriend.
  • Trimaan Dhillon cut 24-year-old Alice Ruggles' throat after breaking into her Gateshead flat in October 2016.
  • A review has found Northumbria Police and the Army failed to properly address signs of L/Cpl Dhillon's jealous and obsessive behaviour.
  • Dhillon, 26, was jailed for a minimum of 22 years after a trial last year.
  • A domestic homicide review, carried out by Gateshead Community Safety Board, concluded Miss Ruggles was subjected to "significant stalking" and that Army officials failed to record a previous domestic assault charge against Dhillon in Kent.
  • The review heard Miss Ruggles, who was originally from Tur Langton, near Market Harborough in Leicestershire and worked for Sky, had contacted Northumbria Police about Dhillon's stalking in the days before her death.
  • In one a call handler asked Miss Ruggles if she wanted him to be arrested, but she declined. The review found police should have made that decision and it should not have been left to the victim.
  • The review noted that a police officer did contact Dhillon's barracks in Edinburgh and spoke to a superior, but not Military Police or Police Scotland, and Dhillon was then told by the regiment to stop contacting her or face arrest.
  • Trimaan Dhillon ignored the warning and eventually drove 120 miles to Tyneside to murder Miss Ruggles.

The report concluded: "The perpetrator's willingness to travel provided an indication of the level of his obsessive behaviour that was overlooked.
"In addition, there was a lack of clarity about the roles and responsibilities of the Home Office, police and armed forces, which led to some confusion about how best to deal with the perpetrator."
The review made 20 recommendations, including making it an offence to threaten to release intimate photos of an ex-partner, as Dhillon did when Miss Ruggles called off their relationship.
It also urged the Home Office to review the effectiveness of the police 101 non-emergency number, after it emerged Miss Ruggles abandoned a call to Northumbria Police after being kept on hold for almost seven minutes.
The review described the incident as a "missed opportunity to support Alice".
Last year the the Independent Office for Police Conduct (IOPC) said two Northumbria officers had cases of misconduct to answer while another had performed unsatisfactorily.
It also found the force treated the matter as harassment rather than stalking. The force has since apologised to Miss Ruggles' parents, Sue Hill and Clive Ruggles.
The review also called on the Home Office to review the legality of spyware after concerns about the ease in which Dhillon was able to hack Miss Ruggles' social media accounts.
Responding to the report, Ms Hill and Mr Ruggles said: "Alice died in tragic circumstances and it is important that failings are acknowledged, lessons learned, and improvements made.
"We hope that the Army will now realise that they have an important part to play when one of their soldiers is accused of criminal behaviour against a civilian and, like other agencies, will proceed to learn lessons from Alice's case."
Brigadier Christopher Coles, head of Army personnel services group, said: "We are committed to tacking domestic abuse and last year launched a strategy to help prevent domestic abuse in all its forms.
"This includes prevention of abuse in the home and providing support to the families of service personnel who may be affected."
Northumbria Police's assistant chief constable Rachel Bacon said: "With the help of Alice's family we are now leading the way in training officers in the best way to deal with these types of offences.
"Their continued determination to change the law to better protect victims of stalking is commendable."
]]> Wed, 10 Apr 2019 11:05:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?alice-ruggles--police-and-army--failed--stalking-victim https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/000000016 <![CDATA[Example of mob getting out of control in the British army]]> imblog
An article in the Metro newspaper on the 6 April 2019 which can be viewed at https://metro.co.uk/2019/04/06/six-british-soldiers-arrested-sexually-assaulting-sleeping-army-girl-17-9124811/.


If this alleged assault is proven to be true then it would appear to be a case of a ring leader egging others on to commit despicable acts, a classic case of a mob in action. I hope for everyone involved and the British army the truth comes out and justice is done. Even if no sexual assault has not taken place the fact there may have been 6 other recruits in her room standing over her would constitute bullying and harassment at the very least. It may also be likely that one of the 6 knew what they were doing and the other 5 are only just realising what they were doing which would be typical of mob manipulation.




]]> Sun, 07 Apr 2019 16:06:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?example-of-mob-getting-out-of-control-in-the-british-army https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/000000014 <![CDATA[Richard Holly - Common sense approach to mobbing]]> imblog
Richard Holly seems to be a down to earth individual with a good idea of what community mobbing is about which is the turning of a community against an individuakl by a sociopath or sociopaths with the intention of harassing the individual to death if possible. He has a YouTube presence at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCy13PfBZp3nEV19sjPiVZ-Q/.

An interesting comment he has made is about "Voice to Skull" (v2k) which is when targeted people supposedly hear voices or noises while no one else around them does. This can be easily done using commercially available products which use highly directional sound waves which are commonly used by art galleries and museums for certain exhibits. His article can be viewed on YouTube at https://youtu.be/j5Z4KVbgVdQ. An example of this would be the person standing directly in front of an exhibit in an art gallery is able to hear the narration about the exhibit but other individuals on either side of the exhibit do not hear anything.

An example of mobbing can be clearly seen in this YouTube video which can be viewed at https://youtu.be/agpp5ZBvCxw.

It is interesting that so many people seem to be perfectly happy to be pawns in a mobbing campaign and in the process give up their integrity and self esteem to any old sociopath who has no regard for them whatsoever. Sad but true.
]]> Sun, 07 Apr 2019 15:50:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?richard-holly---common-sense-approach-to-mobbing https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/000000013 <![CDATA[Automart Direct Limited is this Karma in action]]> imblog
The car I purchased from Automart Direct Limited, located at Merchant Way, Wheatley, only lasted a few months before it broke down and was beyond economical repair, it was absolutely riddled with faults. The warranty I paid £350.00 would only pay up to £150.00 worth of repairs, so was a rip off and not worth the paper it was printed on. The article in the Doncaster Free Press demonstrates the kind of people I was dealing with, isn't hindsight a wonderful thing!

Is this Karma in action?

I put this down to experience and it persuaded me to use a bicycle for the time being as any vehicles I own only seem to get vandalised anyway.





From the Doncaster Free Press

"A group of Doncaster rogue traders from dealerships have been convicted of selling ‘unroadworthy’ and ‘dangerous’ cars. "

"The company was also found guilty of misleading consumers with false advertising, as well as providing an invoice with terms such as ‘trade sale,’ ‘sold as seen’ and ‘spares/repairs’ giving the consumer the impression that they would not be able to exercise their statutory rights.
Company director Mahmood and manager Banks, were also found guilty and personally liable for their involvement in the sale of the dangerous vehicle deemed ‘unroadworthy/unusable’ and in an 'unsafe”’condition.
All company fines were in excess of £4,000 to account for costs, compensation and victim surcharge."

]]> Wed, 20 Mar 2019 20:46:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?automart-direct-limited-is-this-karma-in-action https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/000000012 <![CDATA[MPC Peace website revamped and Mobbed UK is up and running!]]> imblog


The Mobbed UK website has been designed to tackle the scourge and blight of mobbing and gang-stalking, which is mobbing under another name, in the community and workplace. This type of abuse is usually promoted by individuals with a Cluster B personality disorder which includes narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths and individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder. It is quite often an escalation of the standard emotional abuse which Cluster B individuals use against their targets especially if the target goes "No Contact" and has nothing further to do with their abusers. This type of abuse is were an individual is abused by a group of like minded individuals controlled by a Cluster B individual in order to try and push an individual into commiting suicide. It would seem to have got a lot worse with the advent of social media and it has been used by teenagers and young adults to drive other young people to suicide in several high profile cases.



The website MPC at Peace website deals with the abuse of a Cluster B personality of an individual which will often escalate to mobbing which means there is a lot of overlap between the two websites.

Both websites have been created with the aim of providing information to targets of emotional and physical abuse to try and help them them escape their abusers, deal with their abuse and recover. Even if they only help one target or victim of abuse they will have made a difference!

]]> Sun, 17 Mar 2019 17:55:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?mpc-peace-website-revamped-and-mobbed-uk-is-up-and-running- https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/000000011 <![CDATA[The Serenity Prayer]]> imblog
Although the Serenity Prayer, by Dr Reinhold Niebuhr, is used as part of the 12-step programs used by recovering alcaholics and other addicts it is also useful for people recovering from emotional abuse in all it's forms.

The Serenity Prayer

Short version of the Serenity Prayer

God grant me the Serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to
change the things I can;
and the Wisdom to
know the difference.

Long version of the Serenity Prayer

God grant me the Serenity
To accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And the Wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time.
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as he did, this sinful world as it is,
Not as I would like it.

Trusting that he will make all things right,
If I surrender to his will.
That I may be reasonably happy in this world
And supremely happy in the next.

Reinhold Niebuhr, Noted German Theologian


This prayer has been credited to almost every theologian, philosopher and saint known to man. It was actually written around 1932 by Dr. Reinhold Niebuhr of the Union Theological Seminary in New York City, as the ending to a longer prayer.
]]> Sat, 16 Mar 2019 18:26:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?the-serenity-prayer https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/00000000F <![CDATA[Stalking the Soul: Emotional Abuse and the Erosion of Identity Emotional Abuse and the Erosion of Identity]]> imblog

The book is available on Amazon at https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/188558699X/.

This book has great therapeutic value with analysis of often undetected manipulative patterns in destructive relationships which is both compassionate and profound. Many people will find it and eye opening reading experience and maybe even a mirror of their own lives.

The book covers emtional abuse in great detail and although the scars of this kind of abuse may not be visible they do run deep. Emotional abuse is all around us, in couples, in families, in communities and in the workplace. As the book title suggests it can be regarded as a virtual  murder of the soul which society turns a blind eye to and even condones this form of abuse.

The book contains several case studies and demonstrates the psychology of the abuser as well as the target of abuse. The book is a call to recognise and understand emtional abuse and, most importantly, to overcome it. Sophisticated yet wholly accessible, this landmark account is vital reading for health professionals and victims of abuse, as well as for the concerned public.

]]> Sat, 16 Mar 2019 17:14:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?stalking-the-soul--emotional-abuse-and-the-erosion-of-identity-emotional-abuse-and-the-erosion-of-identity https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/00000000E <![CDATA[Overcoming Anxiety: Reassuring Ways to Break Free from Stress and Worry and Lead a Calmer Life]]> imblog

Understand, overcome and break free from worry and anxiety.

Bestselling personal development author, Gill Hasson is back and this time she's here to help with something that affects everyone at some point in their life, Anxiety. Worries and anxieties are familiar to us all.

t prompts you to take action and solve a problem but unrelenting doubts, fears, and negative possibilities can dominate your mind, affect your ability to manage your everyday life and wellbeing, your sleep and appetite, your social life, and your ability to concentrate. But it doesn't need to be like this, there are ways that you can manage this spiral of unhelpful thoughts and difficult feelings.

Overcoming Anxiety explains how to manage anxiety and stop it from taking over; it teaches you the skills you need to lead a more peaceful, stress-free life.

Overcoming Anxiety:
  • Provides practical strategies and techniques to manage your anxiety
  • Discusses how to break free from negative cycles and move forward in a positive way
  • Contains real-life examples from anxiety sufferers
  • Explores what it takes to handle immediate anxiety events and longer term, low-level background' anxiety and worry

About the Author

Gill Hasson is the bestselling author of the Mindfulness Pocketbook, Mindfulness, How to Deal with Difficult People and Emotional Intelligence. Gill teaches adult education courses in personal development and is an Associate Tutor for the University of Sussex where she teaches career, personal development and academic study skills.

Gill is also a freelance journalist and writes articles on personal development and relationships for a variety of magazines, including Psychologies and Take A Break, and for a number of websites.

]]> Sat, 16 Mar 2019 17:03:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?overcoming-anxiety--reassuring-ways-to-break-free-from-stress-and-worry-and-lead-a-calmer-life https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/00000000D <![CDATA[Mindfulness: Be mindful. Live in the moment]]> imblog

Be calm, collected and in the moment.

Too often, life just races by. You don t fully experience what s happening now, because you're too busy thinking about what needs doing tomorrow, or distracted by what happened yesterday. And all the time your mind is chattering with commentary or judgement.

Mindfulness allows you to experience the moment instead of just rushing through it. Being mindful opens you up to new ideas and new ways of doing things, reducing stress and increasing your enjoyment of life.

With ideas, tips and techniques to help you enjoy a more mindful approach to life, you ll learn how to:

  • Adopt more positive ways of thinking and behaving Become calmer and more confident
  • Break free from unhelpful thoughts and thinking patterns
  • Bring about positive changes in your relationships
  • Achieve a new level of self-awareness and understanding

Life is happening right now; mindfulness will help you live in the moment, so it doesn't pass you by!


]]> Sat, 16 Mar 2019 16:58:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?mindfulness--be-mindful--live-in-the-moment https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/00000000C <![CDATA[Make Your Bed: Little things that can change your life ... and maybe the world]]> imblog

A highly recommended book that may just improve your outlook on life!

From the Amazon website.

" If you want to change the world, start off by making your bed. "

On May 17, 2014, Admiral William H. McRaven addressed the graduating class of the University of Texas at Austin on their Commencement day. Taking inspiration from the university's slogan, "What starts here changes the world," he shared the ten principles he learned during Navy Seal training that helped him overcome challenges not only in his training and long Naval career, but also throughout his life; and he explained how anyone can use these basic lessons to change themselves-and the world-for the better.
Admiral McRaven's original speech went viral with over 10 million views. Building on the core tenets laid out in his speech, McRaven now recounts tales from his own life and from those of people he encountered during his military service who dealt with hardship and made tough decisions with determination, compassion, honour, and courage.

Told with great humility and optimism, this timeless book provides simple and universal wisdom, practical advice, and words of encouragement that will inspire readers to achieve more, even in life's darkest moments.

About the Author
Admiral William McRaven (Ret) is the most well-known and decorated Admiral in recent American history. He served with great distinction in the Navy, first as a SEAL and then later as the commander of JSOC and as the head of the operation that took down Osama bin Laden. He is now chancellor of the University of Texas system and a public speaker in high demand in the business and education circuits.

Available on Amazon at https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0714M8P9Y/.
]]> Sat, 16 Mar 2019 16:49:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?make-your-bed--little-things-that-can-change-your-life-----and-maybe-the-world https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/00000000B <![CDATA[You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse: The #1 System for Recovering from Toxic Relationships]]> imblog

From the Amazon website.

" Melanie Tonia Evans knows the personal hell of narcissistic abuse up close and personal. More importantly, she has discovered a pathway out of this purgatory - and that is the Quanta Freedom Healing method which is outlined in this book '' -- Christiane Northrup, MD, Author of Dodging Energy Vampires

Narcissistic abuse refers to any abuse by a person suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The abuse may occur in any type of relationship and may be mental, physical, financial, spiritual or sexual. Narcissistic abuse is reaching epidemic proportions worldwide.

If you have experienced a toxic relationship with someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, you will know that no one understands what you are going through unless they have personally experienced it.

For five years Melanie Tonia Evans was violated by her former husband. It almost took her to the point of no return, and at her very lowest moment she had an epiphany that signified the birth of the healing technique you will discover in this book.

Full of powerful insights, personal experience and practical easy-to-use tools, this book will help you to identify your subconscious programmes, validate the effects that Narcissistic Abuse has had on your life, and it will show you how to free yourself from inner trauma so that you can heal the pain and build a new life.

The book is available on Amazon at https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1786781662/.

Melanie's Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP)is a revolutionary programme is designed to heal you from the inside out; its effectiveness has been proven by thousands of people worldwide.

Melanie's website can be viewed via this link - http://www.pwc2.com/Efwgz.

More about the author

Biography

Melanie Tonia Evans
Melanie’s leading edge healing methods have helped thousands of people from over 80 countries make astounding full recoveries from narcissistic abuse.

Her passion is bringing to the world the Thriver Model … which saved her life and granted her the life of her dreams, despite being given the diagnosis that she would never recover from her abuse symptoms.

Melanie’s Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP)which contains her pioneer super-tool, Quanta Freedom Healing, enables people to heal from trauma in time frames and ways they had never previously accessed – even when every other healing method has failed.

Melanie’s work is revolutionizing the old Model of Survivor Recovery to one of Thriver status – whereby people become more confident, happy and successful in life, than they ever were even before being abused … or even if abuse was all they have ever known.

The Thriver Model has gained incredible attention and recognition, with psychologists, counsellors, domestic violence workers and relationship experts globally, referring abuse victims to Melanie’s Model as the solution to heal for real from narcissistic abuse.

Melanie's website can be viewed via this link - http://www.pwc2.com/Efwgz.
]]> Sat, 16 Mar 2019 16:40:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?you-can-thrive-after-narcissistic-abuse--the--1-system-for-recovering-from-toxic-relationships https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/00000000A <![CDATA[Emotional Recovery from Workplace Mobbing (And Workbook): Practical Help for Recovering Targets]]> imblog
Emotional Recovery from Workplace Mobbing (And Workbook): Practical Help for Recovering Targets by Richard Schwindt is a book which may prove useful to anyone who has been a target of workplace mobbing with practical, sensible and realistic advice.

New for 2017: Richard Schwindt’s two most successful books combined, to provide more practical help to targets of workplace abuse intent on rebuilding their lives. Workplace mobbing exacts a terrible emotional and physical toll on targets and those who love them.

While most books on workplace bullying and mobbing focus on the dynamics of the abuse and advocacy, this book is dedicated to emotional healing.

The author has been a working therapist for more than thirty years, experienced the harrowing effects of a workplace mobbing and, most importantly, has reached thousands of people in his articles, videos, website and practice to help them heal.

Richard shows how to manage the out of control emotions; the anxiety, loss and trauma of a mobbing experience.

He offers advice about on rebuilding relationships with family and loved ones. In addition he examines the pitfalls of seeking help for this misunderstood phenomenon.

This is a must read for someone recovering from the nightmare that is workplace mobbing and for anyone watching their loved one struggle.

The book details can be viewed on Amazon at https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B01NBP6RD3/.
]]> Sat, 16 Mar 2019 16:33:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?emotional-recovery-from-workplace-mobbing--and-workbook---practical-help-for-recovering-targets https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/000000009 <![CDATA[Bully in Sight: How to predict, resist, challenge and combat workplace bullying - Overcoming the silence and denial by which abuse thrives]]> imblog

Product description

Review
Powerful, compassionate, practical (Nursing Times, 1/1/97) Review: Thank you for writing Bully in sight ... it's like a torch in the darkness -- survivor of bullying - name on file, 3/3/98

Will be eagerly read by those waiting for an update [to Andrea Adams' book] -- Times Educational Supplement, 3/7/97

Synopsis
Bully In Sight is a comprehensive guide on how to predict, resist, challenge and combat bullying in the workplace. Find out why some people become bullies while others become victims, and how and why the bullies victims are picked. '

From the Author
This is the book I so desperately needed when I was being bullied out of my job.

From the Back Cover
Discover the difference between bullying and management, explore over 80 ways of taking action against bullies, learn how and why bullies choose their victims, see why some people become bullies whilst others become victims, obtain advice on how to identify and deal with the serial bully, learn to recognise bullying's foreseeable psychiatric injury, develop awareness of bullies' tactics and learn defence strategies.
Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.

Bullying is widespread. Surveys suggest that over half the population has experienced or witnessed bullying at some time in their lives. Even this figure may be conservative.

Being bullied is an unnecessary hell. It destroys individuals, wrecks families, devastates lives and livelihoods, and costs both employers and the State dear. It does not toughen people up, instead it weakens, disempowers and destroys. It does not aid survival, instead threatens our existence. It does not promote long-term growth and prosperity, but favours short-term expediency at the expense of the long term. And, as with other forms of violation and trespass, only those who have suffered it fully appreciate the sheer awfulness of daily unremitting abuse that has no answer, no reason, no value and no end. In the last decade of the twentieth century, workplace bullying is, in my view, the second greatest social evil after child abuse, with which there are many parallels.

The book is available on Amazon at https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0952912104/.
]]> Sat, 16 Mar 2019 15:06:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?bully-in-sight--how-to-predict,-resist,-challenge-and-combat-workplace-bullying---overcoming-the-silence-and-denial-by-which-abuse-thrives https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/000000008 <![CDATA[Adult Bullying in the Age of Social Media: Identifying Group Mobbing and Social Media]]> imblog
Adult Bullying in the Age of Social Media: Identifying Group Mobbing and Social Media by Mandy Marchola is very good book and goes straight to the heart of adult bullying and mobbing. It covers all the techniques which are used against targets of abuse and explains why people behave as badly as they do.


It explains:

  • The smear campaign.
  • How the mob works.
  • The type of people who instigate the hate campaign.
  • How to handle the mob and mobbing.
  • Why people love to join a mob.
  • Why most people like to bully and abuse other people.
  • How to care for yourself.

Social Media has created a whole new platform for bullying. While a number of publications refer to children being bullied, or workplace bullying, very little addresses the little known area of Adult Bullies and Mobbing.  More information on Social Media can be viewed here.

Sound, effective strategies are offered to recover from the painful experience of being mobbed by a group. This book provides an excellent overview and understanding of how someone can be bullied, mobbed and ostracized, while the bullies remains anonymous. It also covers the devastating effects of Mobbing, which can lead to rapid declining mental and physical health, and ultimately suicide.

The influence of the bully over the group is highlighted by comparisons and examples of pack behavior. Knowing there are options, and that others have experienced bullying and mobbing, and have survived, can bring comfort to someone who is currently experiencing mobbing. Mobbing is abusive, destructive, aggressive and completely overlooked, while the victims languish in silence. This book includes the very personal experiences of the author who suffered with the shame and despair of a social mobbing, affecting every area of her life, right up to the point of attempting suicide.

Mobbing needs to be recognized as a criminal offense. There is a need for the public to wake up to the immense damage and very ignored aspect of mobbing as pertaining to modern society, acknowledging the victims and holding the perpetrators accountable.

Misleading and damaging information can be transmitted through Social Media and mobbing needs to be perceived as a criminal offence. There is a need to wake up to the immense damage and very ignored aspect of mobbing as pertaining to modern society.

I would recommend this book to anyone who cares about their community, children and their own integrity and personal development. If you are in a mob (toxic group or vigilantes) reading this book may wake you up to the way you are being used to attack innocent members of society and just how easy this manipulation is. Unfortunately a lot of people and not mature or honest enough with themselves to wake up to what they have done or are still doing.
]]> Sat, 16 Mar 2019 14:13:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?adult-bullying-in-the-age-of-social-media--identifying-group-mobbing-and-social-media https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/000000007 <![CDATA[Taken from the old Bully Online website]]> imblog
Taken from the old Bully Online website (https://bullyonline.org/old/workbully/mobbing.htm) created by the late Tim Field.



What is bullying?

Definition of bullying:
" Bullying is conduct that cannot be objectively justified by a reasonable code of conduct, and whose likely or actual cumulative effect is to threaten, undermine, constrain, humiliate or harm another person or their property, reputation, self-esteem, self-confidence or ability to perform. " Tim Field Foundation 2015

What is mobbing?

The word bullying is used to describe a repeated pattern of negative intrusive violational behaviour against one or more targets and comprises constant trivial nit-picking criticism, refusal to value and acknowledge, undermining, discrediting and a host of other behaviours which are defined in the paragraph What is bullying?

Bullying is typically perpetrated by one person although others in a workplace may join in, for example by operating legitimate procedures in an inappropriate manner, at the behest of the bully, having an adverse effect on the target. "Bullying" is still an appropriate term to describe what is done to the target.

"Mobbing" involves a group of people whose size is constrained by the social setting in which it is formed, such as a workplace. It might seem to the target as if many people are involved but in reality the group might be small. The group members directly interact with a target in an adversarial way that undermines or harms them in measurable, definable ways.

The word mobbing is preferred to bullying in continental Europe and in those situations where a target is selected and bullied (mobbed) by a group of people rather than by one individual. However, every group has a ringleader. If this ringleader is an extrovert it will be obvious who is coercing group members into mobbing the selected target. If the ringleader is an introvert type, he or she is likely to be in the background coercing and manipulating group members into mobbing the selected target; introvert ringleaders are much more dangerous than extrovert ringleaders.

In a mobbing situation, the ringleader incites supporters, cohorts, copycats and unenlightened, inexperienced, immature or emotionally needy individuals with poor values to engage in adversarial interaction with the selected target. The ringleader, or chief bully, gains gratification from encouraging others to engage in adversarial interaction with the target. Many people use the word "mobbing" to describe this pack attack by many on one individual. Once mobbing is underway the chief bully foments the mobbing into mutually assured destruction, from which the chief bully gains intense gratification - this is a feature of people with psychopathic personality.

One aspect of psychopathic bullies is that they home in on Wannabe types - non-psychopathic lesser bullies - and then empower these individuals to gain the positions of power and authority they crave. Once installed, the Wannabe's lack of competence makes them dependent on the chief psychopath, which means they become unwitting but willing compliant puppets. They also make perfect corporate clones and drones. A characteristic of the Wannabe is that as well as lacking all the competencies necessary for their position, they also lack the intellect to understand the nature and manner of their compliant subservience.

Throughout the mobbing experience, the target is deceived into fighting, blaming and trying to hold accountable the minor bullies of the mobbing group rather than the chief bully. The main reason a psychopathic chief bully gets away with his (or her) behaviour repeatedly is that no-one wants to believe that s/he could be the monster s/he is. This is also the reason that many pedophiles and wife-batterers evade accountability and sanction for years, often decades. They appear so charming and plausible to naive, unenlightened and inexperienced people - usually those who haven't experienced bullying themselves. Psychopathic chief bullies are very likely to have everyone in human resources and management in their pocket, who are then manipulated into further mobbing, victimising and persecuting the target.

The golden rule when tackling a mobbing situation is, I believe, to identify and focus exclusively on the chief bully, and concentrate on holding this ringleader accountable. Expect an immediate increase in mobbing activities, and a rapidly-expanding web of deceit to be concocted against you. Alternatively, the best solution may be to make a positive decision to leave and refuse to allow these people to continue to ruin your career, your health and your life. In the unlikely event that the psychopathic chief leader is exposed and then leaves, the dysfunction, aggression and negative feelings fostered by him or her are likely to linger for years.
]]> Thu, 14 Mar 2019 21:00:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?taken-from-the-old-bully-online-website https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/000000010 <![CDATA[Hello World!!]]> imblog

Welcome to the Mobbing UK website and blog.

A website designed to provide information to vicitims of community and workplace mobbing, one of the most evil practices that people practice on each other.
]]> Thu, 14 Mar 2019 15:00:00 GMT https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/?hello-world-- https://narcabuse.mpcweb.uk/blog/rss/000000005